Hi there and welcome, I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad 12 weeks ago now. It's the worst pain imaginable. Talk to him like you always have. I told my dad on the day of diagnosis how much I loved him and that he's been the best dad in the world to me. I was so glad I did as he passed away a few days later. It's natural to be worried sick because you know what the outcome is which none of us want. Spend as much time with your dad as you possibly can and cherish every moment. Are you aware of all his wishes when he passes? My dad went so suddenly he hadn't done a will, which was a pain and he'd never spoke about funeral wishes. When the time came I arranged all that I thought he would of wanted and just hoped I'd done him justice. I'll be thinking of you all at this tough time in your lives x

Hi there and welcome, I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad 12 weeks ago now. It's the worst pain imaginable. Talk to him like you always have. I told my dad on the day of diagnosis how much I loved him and that he's been the best dad in the world to me. I was so glad I did as he passed away a few days later. It's natural to be worried sick because you know what the outcome is which none of us want. Spend as much time with your dad as you possibly can and cherish every moment. Are you aware of all his wishes when he passes? My dad went so suddenly he hadn't done a will, which was a pain and he'd never spoke about funeral wishes. When the time came I arranged all that I thought he would of wanted and just hoped I'd done him justice. I'll be thinking of you all at this tough time in your lives x

Hi I am really sorry you lost your dad nothing really prepares you for this and you never really think it would happen to you and here we are!

Thank you for replying does mean a lot to know people who truly understand are here to talk x

For a while mum and dad have been preparing for retirement so they have made sure everything is in place mum retired at Christmas dad was trying to get back to work after his treatment. Only managed half a day couple of weeks ago. Mum said dad has always said he wouldn't see past 66yrs he is 65yrs and his birthday is in September. So for a long time wanted things in place although I don't know about what his wishes would be for a his funeral. It just seems like a really bad dream. He keeps bursting into tears and telling us all what we must do for when he has gone

I'm sure your dad would have been very proud of you!! Not something any farther wants to put on his children xx

It breaks my heart reading your words knowing the pain all your family will be going through. It's strange how your dad never thought he would see his 66th birthday, my dad was exactly the same! He had told me on more than occasion that he didn't think he would live that long as his parents both died at 68 & 69 from cancer and leukaemia. My dad died a month before his 65th birthday, totally shocking no age at all. I've spent 12 weeks looking for a letter or something from my dad asking me to look after my mum when he's gone but I've found nothing but I still keep looking but I know there won't be anything. It must break your heart seeing your dad cry knowing what is happening. My dad never told us he was ill. All the time I think of him and how heartbroken he must of been knowing that he was unwell and that he was going to be leaving us all behind. I'll be thinking of you all at this difficult time. I'm sure home is the best place for dad so you can be with him, but appreciate its a personal decision. Take care x