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Keeping it normal at Christmas

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I am really struggling. ...After along few months with my Mum in and out of hospital  ...brain surgery. ...lazer ....We were told the news yesterday it has spread further.  It is so heart breaking to go through so much then be told there is more.   She home now and we have meetings after x.mas to discuss next steps.  But it is sooo hard to be "normal " when we know what is going on under the surface.     I keep trying to pinch my self it is a nightmare as everyone on this forum probably does.     Just so hard.  The pressure of possibly having our last "Christmas " is getting too me. ....how can I make it special ???

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    Being with your Mum will be as special as it gets.  It's so hard to go through this at any time but so much harder when it's at this time of year.  This time last year  my husband was entering the final  stages of his three year journey with cancer and though  no one mentioned 'how long' he was extremely frail and unable to eat Christmas meal being on a mainly liquid diet.  He did, however, enjoy being within the family and it was not a 'normal' Christmas (whatever that should be) but it was the best we could make it. We still had the ritual of opening presents, chatting to relatives on the phone and sharing a tin of sweets as we watched the 'naff' stuff on the tv.

    There is no doubting that none of this is easy and we did ask my husband how he would like to spend Christmas and then followed his lead.  I wonder if you Mum would just appreciate it if you were able to share your thoughts with her and let her still be Mum.

    The forum and the people within it are very supportive and I hope you find it helpful. Jules54

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    Being with your Mum will be as special as it gets.  It's so hard to go through this at any time but so much harder when it's at this time of year.  This time last year  my husband was entering the final  stages of his three year journey with cancer and though  no one mentioned 'how long' he was extremely frail and unable to eat Christmas meal being on a mainly liquid diet.  He did, however, enjoy being within the family and it was not a 'normal' Christmas (whatever that should be) but it was the best we could make it. We still had the ritual of opening presents, chatting to relatives on the phone and sharing a tin of sweets as we watched the 'naff' stuff on the tv.

    There is no doubting that none of this is easy and we did ask my husband how he would like to spend Christmas and then followed his lead.  I wonder if you Mum would just appreciate it if you were able to share your thoughts with her and let her still be Mum.

    The forum and the people within it are very supportive and I hope you find it helpful. Jules54

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