Keeping it normal at Christmas

I am really struggling. ...After along few months with my Mum in and out of hospital  ...brain surgery. ...lazer ....We were told the news yesterday it has spread further.  It is so heart breaking to go through so much then be told there is more.   She home now and we have meetings after x.mas to discuss next steps.  But it is sooo hard to be "normal " when we know what is going on under the surface.     I keep trying to pinch my self it is a nightmare as everyone on this forum probably does.     Just so hard.  The pressure of possibly having our last "Christmas " is getting too me. ....how can I make it special ???

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  • Hi,

    Your post really struck a chord with me. Some years ago my mother was in hospital with terminal cancer at this time of year. One evening while I was there, a group of carol singers came round from a local youth club. My mother loved it even though she was very ill, for she always loved Christmas. It was so hard for me realizing it would be her last Christmas and I really struggled to hold back the tears while they were singing. I realized afterwards, she must have felt exactly the same too and I felt realy guilty for thinking only about myself and not considering how she must have felt.

    Probably the best way is to spend as much time with her as you can and to try and put on a brave face though I know how hard it is to do. You obviously love your mother so let her see that by the little things you do for her.

    I really do feel for people in your situation. It hard at any time of year but always seems worse at Christmas.

    Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your family, Brian.

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  • Hi,

    Your post really struck a chord with me. Some years ago my mother was in hospital with terminal cancer at this time of year. One evening while I was there, a group of carol singers came round from a local youth club. My mother loved it even though she was very ill, for she always loved Christmas. It was so hard for me realizing it would be her last Christmas and I really struggled to hold back the tears while they were singing. I realized afterwards, she must have felt exactly the same too and I felt realy guilty for thinking only about myself and not considering how she must have felt.

    Probably the best way is to spend as much time with her as you can and to try and put on a brave face though I know how hard it is to do. You obviously love your mother so let her see that by the little things you do for her.

    I really do feel for people in your situation. It hard at any time of year but always seems worse at Christmas.

    Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your family, Brian.

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