Hi there Andy, welcome to the forum and I'm so sorry to hear that your Dad is failing. Pauline has given you some good advice there and you really would be wise to listen to that. I know that checking out right now is so much easier for you on the short term, but it will certainly be a lot harder on the long term. For those of us who  have been through this, take my word for it, spending time with your Dad right now is good for him, but even better for you in the long run. Sure it's hard to watch him gradually fade away and that is so hard to see. If he sees you become emotional while with him, that's ok. Perhaps the two of you can have a good cry together and then have a game of cards or something. Think about how he must be feeling right now and even though he may give the impression that he wants to be alone, he really doesn't. Also, talk to your wife about how you're feeling and ask her to be patient and supportive to you as you go through this difficult time. What's going to happen, will happen eventually, and there isn't anything obviously that anyone can do about it, but all you have is right now and what you do with this time will make all the difference in the world, to him and to you.

Come back on here any time and get support from people on here who are, or have been through what you are going through now.

Take care.

Lorraine

Hi Lorraine , we all had a great xmas ,i had a talk with my wife about my feelings and its sorted now .thanks x

Hi Lorraine , we all had a great xmas ,i had a talk with my wife about my feelings and its sorted now .thanks x