Hi Sami,

Welcome to Cancer Chat allthough I am so sorry to read about your dad. I wont deny knowing someone you love only has so long left is hard, but you will cope trust me. What I would suggest, is during the next few months, you try and make as many happy memories as you can. I can tell you, the momories I have of my mother certainly helped me cope after her loss, for when I had a bad spell, I used to remember those times. I have also lost my father who lived in Canada a few days ago and I have known for a while he had only got so long left. But he showed great fighting spirit and just loved proving the doctors wrong. I am so proud to be his son.

Please keep in contact and let us know how your coping. Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your dad, Brian.

Hi Sami

Welcome to the forum and I  know from past experience that coming to terms with a loved one's cancer diagnosis feels very scary. Like Brian I can honestly say I am not sure where the inner strength comes from but we do somehow manage to cope.  I lost my dad more than eight years ago now and then my husband in Jan this year and both wanted day to day life to be kept as normal as possible for as long as we could. Yes, I worried as how I would cope but with the help of friends and family  during my Dad's illness (prostate/lung cancer) and with the added support of this great forum during my husband three year journey with cancer of the lung linings (Mesothelioma), I found coping day to day and enjoying 'the moment' was important and listening to what our loved ones wanted helped me understand.  Timelines are only a guide. Do come and chat here anytime you think it will help as sometimes just sharing with those who have understanding can be a great support in itself.  Wishing  you, your Dad and the family all the best. Jules54