Hi Jaykay,

welcome to this friendly forum. I know some mothers can be very independant and dont like accepting help.

I can understand how you feel to a degree as my father, who lives in Canada has just been transfered to a hospice and my sister has told me he has only weeks left.

I hope other will reply to you and please come on here anytime you need to, Brian

Dad has now been taken into respite care after the whole weekend of mum me and my brother trying to lift him up trying to get him to wee in the urinal, He has wet the bed bounced his head of the wall and made it bleed tried to go the loo and fell. It turns out he also has a severe urine infection. No one knew. Doctors, nurses, everyone said it was the cancer. No one came. Mom sat on the phone to 111 for 6 hours on Sunday night trying to get a doctor out to my dad. At least 48 hours we struggled on our own. Where were the professionals. Where were social services. Where were the end of life carers. I am disgusted.

Hi Jaykay,
So sorry to see the reason why you have joined the forum.
It is good news that dad has been taken into respite care but I am concerned as to why it took so long for help to be offered and really feel for you and your family.
I think as "carers" we need to be aware of correct terminology to use when asking for help/resources but that knowledge unfortunately comes with experience.
When I called 000 for help they were here within an hour ,  long time when you are waiting for help.  Is dad registered with local palliative care unit?  Are you getting any help from them.
Can point you in correct direction for more assistance but really the professionals should be doing this not an untrained person like me.
Best wishes
Kathy x
 

Hi Jakay,

I am sorry to read about the problems you had over the weekend. There has been a large piece in one of the papers today about the 111 service or lack of it.

At least your dad is in the best place for everyone. They are very good at sorting out pain relief and have a much higher ratio of staff than hospitals. Since I last spoke My brother in law who also has prostate cancer has gone into a hospice for respite care.

Please let us know how your dad gets on, Brian.

Hi Jakay,

I am sorry to read about the problems you had over the weekend. There has been a large piece in one of the papers today about the 111 service or lack of it.

At least your dad is in the best place for everyone. They are very good at sorting out pain relief and have a much higher ratio of staff than hospitals. Since I last spoke My brother in law who also has prostate cancer has gone into a hospice for respite care.

Please let us know how your dad gets on, Brian.