You're right it is cancer I should be angry at xxx

It was a short reply as I a, practicing singing let it go xx. Lol , thanks for the smiles 

HAHA ....... I can hear you from here Lisa !  Take care sweetheart x

Grrrrrrrr - just hearing "Let it Go" with its saccharine-sweet, Disney-effected, sentimentality makes me so angry! :-)

Seriously, whatever gets you through this situation is good.

Anger is a natural reaction, you just need to be careful that you direct it appropriately and constructively. The words of the old song "You Always Hurt the Ones You Love" ring so true. It is so easy to lash out verbally at the nearest person, forgetting that they are going through hell too. I'm pretty sure we've all done this at one time or another and then regretted the outburst. 

At times like these you discover who your real friends are and who turned out to be only there for the beer and the good times. Some people are genuinely unsure what to say for the best, so end up saying nothing. Others are simply a waste of space, and probably always were, but you've only just seen them in their true light as they turn away and look for someone more fun to be with.

If you're lucky, you make new friends along the way for whom you having cancer is the norm and not an issue to be avoided. 

Rant over :-)

Dave

Dave - how could you? Disney sentimentality!  You will be telling me next that the characters arent real lol !

Like I said to Rocker on the 'Capecitabine' thread - some friends do disappoint thats for sure, but I think the majority are in it for the duration.  I hope you can talk to your mates Rocker and explain how you feel - if things dont change then at least you will know - and you have given them an opening which they have chosen to decline.

All the best to all - x

Hi Rocker .... thank goodness you believe too! Dave doesnt realise what he is missing - nothing like a bit of Disney lol!!

I am glad some of your friends are being supportive.  I truly think the majority want to help but just dont know what to do and need us to tell them what we need.  Sometimes we expect people to know what we are thinking and if you think about it, it really isnt easy for our mates is it? - they dont want to be overpowering and on the other hand dont want to seem uninterested. I have no problem with asking people to bring a bit of home-cooking over when I am feeling too poorly to cook - you should try it haha!!!!!

Are you going to get some Udderly??? It may open a whole new world for you!  Seriously it really does work. How is your rash doing?   And how are your feet?  Do hope you are feeling a little better and that the lower dose will be better for you.  Stick with it! x 

wish I had a mate.....like I did in 1987.....been a long time.

Yes, I got some Udderly Smooth and everything feels baby soft noow.....no rash and feet are a little better

The lower dose so far seems to be better. The fatigue is the big thing so I have to learn to adapt...although staying up until 1AM watching Mission Impposible does not help

If you get extra food then send it over. Everyone says I am a good cook and noone brings over food...I am not losing weight so I guess my cooking and eating of food is still with me...lol

Gosh 1987 - it has been a long while for you. 

I am glad you are feeling a little better on the Crappecitabine now - it sometimes takes a few tweeks to get the dosage right on these chemo drugs.  Fatique is a problem on them all and you just have to listen to your body and have a snooze when needed.  An afternoon nap is a good idea.  I tend to sit up late too - but am really trying to sort myself out on that score as my sleep pattern has really got out of hand.

Wish I was a good cook lol!  I am rubbish and however hard I try to follow a recipe, there are very few meals turn out well.  Chilli is about the only thing that turns out yummy and I have no idea why to be honest.  Suggest to a few of your friends that you do a 'come dine with me' evening every week - then you will get some meals at their houses haha!  Have a good week. x

Hi all,

I'm also in need of a rant. It is so true that you find out who your true friends are. With my dad's diagnosis of stage 4 untreatable cancer I have found my anger on different levels. I am angry at the cancer, early on I was angry at others whilst trying to protect my dad, now I'm angry at people who make my dad feel like he has no dignity, there are those who want to just see him to say they have seen him, and those who want to put a damper on things and keep reminding us of the end prognosis like we don't know!!!! The

 Sorry just need to rant.