Hi Lisa I feel exactly the same way. I think we are angry cos we don't know why it happens to the people we love. I've been so snappy and stressy at work and with my friends I can't help it I just apologise and hope they will understand. Maybe try the gym or running? Or some breathing exercises like resting in for 4 hold for 7 breathe out for 8 really calms me down xx

 Hi Lisa and Helsbels, I have been feeling the same too. I too am trying breathing exercises and now giving myself a few minutes during day to try and calm my mind. It's a very difficult time with so many things going, I hope you find  a release and if not maybe on here will help. 

Hello both, I think anger is quite normal to be honest - I would be more concerned if we weren't angry. Anger is not necessarily a negative emotion it's just how it comes out. I've started a blog, maybe try that and here will help get emotions out.

I think anger is ok when we have no idea what is going to happen and we ger frustrated and scared. I know my friends are avoiding me since I have cancer and that gets me angry but I think I should get angry about it

Getting angry is natural. Have you told your friends you feel they are avoiding you? My friends tell me they don't know what to say to me, but let me know they are there. Maybe tell them you feel lonely and isolated? 

I guess I have told my family and the medical field but never told my friends hoow I feel about the way I have been treated. Eventhough I have had a few for over 20 years I just dumped them thinking they were not true friends to me

I've just taken up boxing training hoping that will help but my temper always seems to be bubbling under the surface . I get a taxi with my mum to Weston park hospital and can easily get frustrated with taxi drivers asking questions , I sit and huff and puff thinking for Pete's sake will you shut up , I don't know you . They are just trying to be nice but I get really wound up. Mind u yesterday one taxi driver said which one has cancer ! The. Proceeded to ask what type xxx 

Hi Lisa ..... I am sorry to hear of Mum's diagnosis and hope she is coping well with the treatment.  As has been said, anger is natural but in my opinion yours seems to be a little misguided towards others who are no doubt genuinely empathising with what you and your family are going through. Be aware that they may also be going through a similar thing or have lost someone they love to the disease.

It is cancer you should be angry with, not other people!  I too have had many conversations with taxi drivers taking me to the 'cancer hospital' - I have had offers from them to pre-book free journeys, advice on treatment side-effects and one lovely guy even gave me his number and offered to pick me up from the train station and take me 5miles every three weeks free of charge because he didnt think I should be getting on and off The Tube!  Try not to think the worse of people - most genuinely care.

I understand where you are coming from to some degree because I too have every right to feel angry.  I have a terminal prognosis and face leaving those I love dearly within months. I am in constant pain, have been on chemo over 3yrs, have difficulty eating, can no longer drive, am skint because I can no longer work and nor can my partner as he now has to care for me. I could go on - but what the heck is the point and why is it anyone elses fault who may feel they want to offer a kind word?

Next time you feel a wobbly coming on - open your arms and sing the song from Frozen 'Let it Go' at the top of your voice.  It works wonders and will certainly silence the poor taxi drivers lol!!!!  All the best to you and your Mum x

Maybe you should contact them and let them know how they have made you feel? They cannot make it up to you if they don't know. If they don't make an attempt to make it up to you then you know who cares and who doesnt.

so true.....I have realized that the people I knew had cancer I might not of been there as much as I should of.....but of course when I see drinking alcohol along with pain killers it did cause me to react negatively to what she was doing