Helpless & Angry

My mum has been the best, she has always put me first and done anything and everything to make me happy and to make my life easier. She had cancer last year and we fought through it. But this year it has come back and it's not curable . The doctors have said that having chemo will extend her life to a year. But that isn't long enough. She is in so much pain and I feel helpless as I don't know what I can do. I try and spend all my time with her and only ever go out when I know she has someone with her, such as one of her friends. But I just don't know what to do, I'm doing everything for her as it helps her but makes me feel more like I'm doing something for her but it isn't enough. I've though about raising money for her but what for I don't know as no treatment can sort it out. I just want her to be happy and for it to go away but that isn't going to happen. Any suggestions on things I can do would be appreciated. I'm only 18 and I'm pretty much all she has, and as bad as it sounds I want to go out and have nights out but I feel too guilty to do so and when I have on the off occasion that she has someone with her I feel so guilty. I mean I do have other family but they are not there as much as I am.

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  • James,

    Live your life, have fun, be young - and then tell your Mum all about it (or at least the edited highlights) while you care for her.

    This may seem like bizarre advice, but it is what I would like my own son to do and I'm sure most parents would feel the same. None of us want to feel like we're being a burden, we want our children to be happy and news from the outside world is always a useful distraction.

     

    Good luck!
    Dave

     

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  • James,

    Live your life, have fun, be young - and then tell your Mum all about it (or at least the edited highlights) while you care for her.

    This may seem like bizarre advice, but it is what I would like my own son to do and I'm sure most parents would feel the same. None of us want to feel like we're being a burden, we want our children to be happy and news from the outside world is always a useful distraction.

     

    Good luck!
    Dave

     

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