Helpless & Angry

My mum has been the best, she has always put me first and done anything and everything to make me happy and to make my life easier. She had cancer last year and we fought through it. But this year it has come back and it's not curable . The doctors have said that having chemo will extend her life to a year. But that isn't long enough. She is in so much pain and I feel helpless as I don't know what I can do. I try and spend all my time with her and only ever go out when I know she has someone with her, such as one of her friends. But I just don't know what to do, I'm doing everything for her as it helps her but makes me feel more like I'm doing something for her but it isn't enough. I've though about raising money for her but what for I don't know as no treatment can sort it out. I just want her to be happy and for it to go away but that isn't going to happen. Any suggestions on things I can do would be appreciated. I'm only 18 and I'm pretty much all she has, and as bad as it sounds I want to go out and have nights out but I feel too guilty to do so and when I have on the off occasion that she has someone with her I feel so guilty. I mean I do have other family but they are not there as much as I am.

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  • Hi James

    You are being an amazing supportive son and friend to your Mum during such a difficult time.  Like Kim has so rightly said do make time to enjoy yourself too.  I am sure your Mum would not want you to feel guilty(when my husband was 'incurable' I did carry on socialising when I could as, apart from anything else, it gave me a break and that helped me cope better when things were hard.  He also preferred to hear about what was going on around him rather than talking about the cancer).  Come and chat on the forum when you need to - we all need support at some point.  Jules54

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  • Hi James

    You are being an amazing supportive son and friend to your Mum during such a difficult time.  Like Kim has so rightly said do make time to enjoy yourself too.  I am sure your Mum would not want you to feel guilty(when my husband was 'incurable' I did carry on socialising when I could as, apart from anything else, it gave me a break and that helped me cope better when things were hard.  He also preferred to hear about what was going on around him rather than talking about the cancer).  Come and chat on the forum when you need to - we all need support at some point.  Jules54

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