Rant!

Some people do my fruit in!

Just had a Facebook message from the wife of a longstanding friend....actually her husband was our best man almost 34 years ago. I've changed the names...

Hi, sorry we have not been in touch. Your mum spoke to Dave (our best man) on phone as she helping Joan (best man's mum) out until she moves over the road from us soon. We not been available for at least three weeks as my mum had three heart attacks and so been at hospital all the time. Then we lost our cat who was 12. When we found him it was too late to save him. Then we got the flu and had to go on holiday. We did not we were going until the day before coz of my mum but she came home. Just got back Saturday evening, had another upset on Sunday. Dave's birthday yesterday so been so hectic as usual. So sorry to hear about Paul (my husband). Dave would like to speak to him so if possible could you give us a number to contact him on. Xx

Now call me picky BUT I can't be the only person who thinks this was a very self self self message! For goodness sake. My husband has just found out that he has got incurable lung cancer. Unless a miracle drug appears in the next few years he will die. I will be a widow! We are going through the shi***est time imaginable and this woman thinks I'm interested in the fact that she couldn't get in touch sooner because her cat went missing,  she went on holiday and her mum was in hospital??!! 

I think I need to calm down a little before I reply! Or maybe I am being a little oversensitive. 

Just wanted to share because I can't believe how crass some people can be!!

Rant over! :)

Inula

 

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  • Hi Inula

    Ive had lots of these situations since being diagnosed with cancer. People dont know what to say to you, there is some stigma about having cancer. They then leave it for too long and when they eventually do make contact many reasons are given why they couldnt contact you. Everyone has a constant barrage of stuff to deal with in life, her mums heart attack is no less serious than my cancer. The other things (well) Please just forgive her! You make a good point about sensitivity, a family dealing with cancer is under great stress all the time and dont react as they normally would to various situations. Likewise your friend may be under great stress and just have enough energy for herself and immediate family. Anyhow it doesnt take much to pick up the phone so provide that contact number so they can re establish contact with you and just take it from there.

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  • Hi Inula

    Ive had lots of these situations since being diagnosed with cancer. People dont know what to say to you, there is some stigma about having cancer. They then leave it for too long and when they eventually do make contact many reasons are given why they couldnt contact you. Everyone has a constant barrage of stuff to deal with in life, her mums heart attack is no less serious than my cancer. The other things (well) Please just forgive her! You make a good point about sensitivity, a family dealing with cancer is under great stress all the time and dont react as they normally would to various situations. Likewise your friend may be under great stress and just have enough energy for herself and immediate family. Anyhow it doesnt take much to pick up the phone so provide that contact number so they can re establish contact with you and just take it from there.

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