This is my first discussion thread and l hope l am doing this right. My husband Martin was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with Myeloma after being admitted to hospital suffering from pnemonia, which came as a shock as l have been with him 26yrs in total and he has always been as healthy as the proverbial ox. After successful treatment for pneumonia they kept on doing tests, then more tests, more xrays more this more that, then one day myself and our 2 girls go to visit him and he had been moved to another ward. As l turned onto this ward l saw Oncology written under the name of the ward and my heart stopped. An hour later we had learned that he needed chemotheraphy and a bone marrow transplant and that this cancer will always be with him. It can never be gotten rid of. In one hour our whole lives had changed. So now we are on his 5th day of chemo and things are going as well as can be expected... But.. He keeps getting very short with me, he slams doors and goes into long silences. I understand he is scared and feeling very short changed but this man has been my world for so very long and l so want to help him deal with his demons. He does not like visitors, even close family if l'm being truthful. He knows we all love him but at the moment that does not seem to be enough. I would very much like some advice from anyone who has been in our shoes.
