Hi Bagpuss

Just wanted to add  my welcome to the forum though very sorry to see the reason you have sought us out.

At such a difficult time and with  your own emotions to handle as well think Max and Steve have been given good responses and certainly the palliative care nurse should be more than willing to sit with you as a family and discuss things with you. When my husband and I had to break his terminal cancer diagnosis to our adult children we called a family get-together and I became the future go between during his journey  but I received good personal back up from his medical support team. The forum was so thoroughly supportive and still is so I have you find it helpful.  As far as your Dad's own health is concerned it is possible he may not understand fully what is happening around him and once he has been told the news, if he continues to ask the same questions it may be worth answering questions in written form so he can read in private to jog his memory.  Wishing you all the very best.Jules54

Thank you all for the very supportive words, my Mum has arranged for myself and my three brothers to get together on Sunday to tell him. His community nuro rehab nurse has agreed that we should tell him and that writing it down is a good idea. This is one of the worse things I have ever had to face, life can be so cruel. 

Bagpuss

Thank you all for the very supportive words, my Mum has arranged for myself and my three brothers to get together on Sunday to tell him. His community nuro rehab nurse has agreed that we should tell him and that writing it down is a good idea. This is one of the worse things I have ever had to face, life can be so cruel. 

Bagpuss

Hi Bagpuss

I glad that  you can all break the news to your Dad together.  No one wants to face this situation and it may well be the hardest day of your life so far . Writing it down will I am sure help him take it in and you will have mutual support as a family.  Go with your emotions, you will need the release they bring. I wish I could take away the pain that I know you will be feeling but do send virtual hug. Group hugs have become something me and the children has adopted as part of our coping mechanism - a case of action speaking louder than words ( or in our case mutual comfort). Come and chat again as and when you need to. Jules