Hello Habbott12,

You seem to be very caring as you worry you are not doing enough - your mam must be very grateful for the support you are already giving her. Being there is the most important thing you can do for her I am sure.

If there is one person on this forum who knows what it's like to care for a loved one with mesothelioma, it's  the lovely jules54 so I hope she picks up your post and replies. Perhaps you could edit the title of your thread to include the name of your dad's cancer so that others affected by the same type can see it and respond? Maybe something like "Advice/Guidance: Dad diagnosed with mesothelioma"

So I will now let our forum folk welcome you with open arms! And rest assured, there are plenty of open arms here...

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Habbott, welcome to the forum. I am so sorry to hear about your Dad's illness, and also that you feel helpless in this situation. As Lucie has already said, you are there to support both of them as best you can, so try not to be so hard on yourself. Its' not unusual to feel helpless in a situation such as the one you find yourself in, but you need to remember that you can only do your best. That is all anyone can do when dealing with cancer. This is a terrible time for anyone to be going through. You don't mention other family members or friends that may be able to pitch in and help out. If there are, perhaps you could suggest something that you could get some help with. In the meantime, Lucie has suggested contacting jules54 as a good poster to contact. It might be helpful for you to do that.

Don't forget to take care of yourself and come on to the forum anytime and people will usually respond in pretty good time.

Lorraine 

Thank you Lucy and Lorraine, I have contacted Jules54 today.  Dad has another appointment today not sure why he needs to see the Respiratory Consultant or whether its a joint meeting with the Oncologist.

Regards
Helen

Helen

Sorry I  missed this thread when you first posted - have now replied to your post on my 'old' thread and will be happy to stay in touch if it helps. Jules