Hi Mower, so sorry this has happened to your dad.

You can contact the macmillan nurse assigned to your dad to ask questions. She may not have the answers immediately but will find out what she can, and may also help with other things you are in need of. 

I think your dad and you and your family can get counciling to help you during this difficult time if you ask too. Sometimes we need to lean on others a bit when times are hard.

Thinking of you and your dad and wishing him well

Aemi x

Thank you for your reply its so hard seeing him in pain & thinking how long I have with him, but got a load of questions to ask his consultant when we get an appointment but don't know when that will be as he has cat scan today & not heard any think about him going for his biopsy yet, it's just a waiting game & it feel like they are taking forever.

Hi Jules

I did ask my Dad if he had a feeling it was cancer & he said  no he had no idea it could be cancer, but I think deep down he did. Yes Jules they have lived more then we have & it was hard back then not like today. You take care x

Good morning mower

Hoping that when the appointment comes, not long till the 22nd,  everything will be explained to you both (dont forget to write down all your questions and perhaps the replies too as it may well be a lot to process at the time and I found it good to have it to refer to afterwards).  Perhaps by then the care coordinator will have been in touch (if not get back to your Dad's GP as sadly sometimes with their workloads things slip through the net - not right I know but it happens) plus it would be good for you to have a 'name' to contact.

Off to work shortly so take care of yourself and if you can let the forum know how Dad gets on. Regards Jules

Morning Jules

It's tomorrow at 10 past 9 we will see the consultant, my Dad got me to have a look in his mouth & it looks bad plus I had a feel of his neck & he has 2 lumps ever size of his neck, I could be wrong but the lumps are big & the top gum has white little spots on, but will soon know & I will let you all know as soon as I get back, you have a nice time at work as I got back from my morning job at 9am & now at my Dad's till 2.30pm then at my other job at 3pm till 6.30pm then say with my Dad till 8pm, then home & up for work at 3am all good fun lol. You take care x

Hi mower

Not sure how you fit it all in . Assume you live close by your Dad which makes it a little easier to juggle timing issues. Sure you must feel shattered at times so remember to take care of yourself too. Will be thinking of you all this morning and hope the appointment brings some answers for you all (and its not as widespread as you are imagining).  The forum is here when you are ready to share. Jules x

Hi jules

He has 6/9 months without treatment or a 10 hour opp & 6 weeks of radiotherapy, 

Hi mower

You will all need time for this information to sink in and for your Dad to make his decision.  My thoughts are with you and am here to listen when you are ready. Hugs Jules

Hi Jules

My Dad not having the opp as he wouldn't pull through it which I already new this so going to have radiotherapy & enjoy each day as it comes you take care x

Oh Mower,
What can I say.  At least you have a plan of action now, sometimes easier to accept and face.  One day at a time,  enjoy what you have and please look after yourself too.  That is most important.
Hugs
Kathy x
 

Morning Mower

Sorry the  news re the op is probably not what you wanted to hear but good that he can have the radiotherapy and that there is a least treatment planned for your Dad which will give some focus to what is happening.  Sending hugs and know you parents are very lucky to have you for support but remember to look after yourself too (I know its not easy to focus on yourself at times like this but you are important too and hope the forum can help you at times when you feel you need it).. Regards Julesxx

Thanks Kathy, you take care x

Thanks Kathy, you take care x