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My dad has lung cancer and was given a few months to live this was back in February . His calculm levels went high about two wks ago a he had to stay in hospital for a night for some treatment ,since his return home he hasn't left the bedroom as he is to weak to get door stairs . We have offered to get him down but he refuses as he is scared of not being able to get back up ,he seems to be getting very depressed won't eat drinks very little and is getting very grumpy with people . Anyone going through the same thing have any tips on making it easier or is this a way of my dad letting go.  L x

 

 

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  • Hi L,

    Sorry to hear of your situation.

    My nan was in the same situation, she became withdrawn and wanted to be alone all the time, she became tired as she was put onto pain killers and stopped eating and drinking. She kept falling over when getting out of bed and so was taken into hospital after a bad fall, she became very weak and was in disconfort so was kept asleep.

    She was in hospital for a week, and woke up every now and then, when she was awake she was not in pain, she was not with it but very relaxed and could hold a conversation. 

    After a week she was moved to a hospice, and kept asleep for most of the time, we were able to sit with her and she looked very peaceful. she passed suddenly, and they did not have time to call us back in time, but we are glad she was so peaceful in the end.

    As others have said try to get some time with him. Its the small things that are remembered. This decease is so terrible.

     

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  • Hi L,

    Sorry to hear of your situation.

    My nan was in the same situation, she became withdrawn and wanted to be alone all the time, she became tired as she was put onto pain killers and stopped eating and drinking. She kept falling over when getting out of bed and so was taken into hospital after a bad fall, she became very weak and was in disconfort so was kept asleep.

    She was in hospital for a week, and woke up every now and then, when she was awake she was not in pain, she was not with it but very relaxed and could hold a conversation. 

    After a week she was moved to a hospice, and kept asleep for most of the time, we were able to sit with her and she looked very peaceful. she passed suddenly, and they did not have time to call us back in time, but we are glad she was so peaceful in the end.

    As others have said try to get some time with him. Its the small things that are remembered. This decease is so terrible.

     

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