Cancer Research UK main site
  • Replies 3 replies
  • Views 799 views
  • Users 0 members are here

Withdrawing

Frog girl
Offline

 

My dad has lung cancer and was given a few months to live this was back in February . His calculm levels went high about two wks ago a he had to stay in hospital for a night for some treatment ,since his return home he hasn't left the bedroom as he is to weak to get door stairs . We have offered to get him down but he refuses as he is scared of not being able to get back up ,he seems to be getting very depressed won't eat drinks very little and is getting very grumpy with people . Anyone going through the same thing have any tips on making it easier or is this a way of my dad letting go.  L x

 

 

Parents
  • Offline

    Hi Frog girl = our hearts open to you in your personal distress of seeing dad like this = he used to be so different. Now he seems so nervous of having enough energy to even go upstairs. This is very painful for you to go through and we really feel for you. I suppose its dads way of coping = my dad went through something like this with his lung cancer. It was so terrible for us to watch. I wonder if carers could help to get him up and down the stairs? It is hard on you = all I can say is what helped me = I used to go for long walks just to get some fresh air. I used to go out every day rain or shine = even round the block. I have kept this up and today we went for a long walk in the blowey and rainy weather. Very exhilerating and liberating. They say that its easier for the person - and emotionally harder for those who love him/her. I think its true. Keep warm and eat well. Destress every day and make time for special ME TIME and pampering. I am sure dad will become less grumpy with time as he comes to terms with the illness.

    Our huggs are for you at this special time

    all the very best

    Steven xx

Reply
  • Offline

    Hi Frog girl = our hearts open to you in your personal distress of seeing dad like this = he used to be so different. Now he seems so nervous of having enough energy to even go upstairs. This is very painful for you to go through and we really feel for you. I suppose its dads way of coping = my dad went through something like this with his lung cancer. It was so terrible for us to watch. I wonder if carers could help to get him up and down the stairs? It is hard on you = all I can say is what helped me = I used to go for long walks just to get some fresh air. I used to go out every day rain or shine = even round the block. I have kept this up and today we went for a long walk in the blowey and rainy weather. Very exhilerating and liberating. They say that its easier for the person - and emotionally harder for those who love him/her. I think its true. Keep warm and eat well. Destress every day and make time for special ME TIME and pampering. I am sure dad will become less grumpy with time as he comes to terms with the illness.

    Our huggs are for you at this special time

    all the very best

    Steven xx

Children
No Data

Speak to a nurse

Quick links

Follow us

Registered with Fundraising Regulator (logo)
Cancer Research UK is a registered charity in England and Wales (1089464), Scotland (SC041666), the Isle of Man (1103) and Jersey (247). A company limited by guarantee. Registered company in England and Wales (4325234) and the Isle of Man (5713F). Registered address: 2 Redman Place, London, E20 1JQ.