Hi ESM

Welcome to the forum and hope you will find it a good place to share feelings. I am sorry to read that your Mum has had cancer return having beaten it once elsewhere.  It is very hard watching those we love having to go through this and from your post you and your brother want to show that love and support. I am wondering how long your Mum has had this new diagnosis and whether she has started or knows yet what her treatment will be.  I am positive she is not trying to push you away but probably needing to come to terms with what is happening all over again and finding it hard to think about much else at the moment. As a Mum (and a wife who has lost her husband to cancer) I think she is trying to protect you as much as possible and am certain the idea of being away from home just now may be frightening to her (my husband spent many months very close to home in the early days of diagnosis as he feared being unwell away from home and was  very tired). If Mum lives alone then perhaps instead of visiting tomorrow you give her a quick call to tell her any news you may have (my husband just wanted normal conversation rather than to talk about his cancer ) and when its time to say cheerio you can just tell her to phone you when she is ready for visitors again as you miss seeing her.  Wishing you well and letus know how things go if you want to.Jules54

Hi ESM

Welcome to the forum and hope you will find it a good place to share feelings. I am sorry to read that your Mum has had cancer return having beaten it once elsewhere.  It is very hard watching those we love having to go through this and from your post you and your brother want to show that love and support. I am wondering how long your Mum has had this new diagnosis and whether she has started or knows yet what her treatment will be.  I am positive she is not trying to push you away but probably needing to come to terms with what is happening all over again and finding it hard to think about much else at the moment. As a Mum (and a wife who has lost her husband to cancer) I think she is trying to protect you as much as possible and am certain the idea of being away from home just now may be frightening to her (my husband spent many months very close to home in the early days of diagnosis as he feared being unwell away from home and was  very tired). If Mum lives alone then perhaps instead of visiting tomorrow you give her a quick call to tell her any news you may have (my husband just wanted normal conversation rather than to talk about his cancer ) and when its time to say cheerio you can just tell her to phone you when she is ready for visitors again as you miss seeing her.  Wishing you well and letus know how things go if you want to.Jules54

Thanks for your reply Jules.  She has known about the spine for a couple of years, the neck/shoulder and liver are quite new.  I tried to call all day on Saturday and sent texts, but couldn't get hold of her.  She eventually answered the phone to my brother.  Then yesterday, she started sending strange text messages and was incredibly confused, so we had to call a doctor out.  I think I'm going to go and stay for a few days after work tonight.

I'm really sorry to hear about your husband x

Hi

Bless her, its sounds as though maybe medication and low blood count may well be causing her problems/confusion and I am sure she will appreciate having you with her.  When hubby's medication caused some problenms he said things he never remembered and which he found quite upsetting as the last thing he wanted was to upset anyone.  Hope when you see Mum you will have more information to go on and she is lucky to have such caring children. Thank you for your kind words.  Jules