Hi lollypop

So pleased the lovely Brian has responded to you as he has a wealth of first hand knowledge in this area and is a great forum member.  I really just wanted to add my welcome (and could not resist your avatar picture as it used to be my fave lolly (many moons ago!!).  Brian is right when he says the waiting is often the very worst part of a cancer diagnosis and I hope that once the necessary results are through your understanding about what is happening/treatment/ etc will help answer many questions you and your husband will have.  It might well  be worth writing down your questions to take to the next appointment as we found it helped jog our memory (which was often foggy at such times).  Hope you will find the forum a helpful resource. Regards Jules54

Hi Jules, my hubby's appointment has come through, he has to go on Thursday to see the urologist.  If the Cancer has spread I don't think they will operate, this is the difficult thing for me.  I suppose I feel that there is a good chance it can be cured if they can. Thank you for your advise about the list, my head is full of questions but I am sure I would forget all of them when we are with the surgeon.  Thanks again, I will keep you updated.  Lolly.

Hi Lollypop,

Just wanted to say I will be thinking of you and your husband and hoping you get good news on Tuesday. Treatment for prostate cancer has improved dramacticly over the last few years so even if they cant operate, they should be able to keep the cancer under control like they are doing with my brother in law.

Take care, kind thoughts and best wishes being sent your way, Brian.

Thank you Brian.  I feel so much better having shared my feelings.  My husband doesn't like to talk about it. "His way of coping I suppose".  I will keep you posted.  Regards Lolly.

Thank you Brian.  I feel so much better having shared my feelings.  My husband doesn't like to talk about it. "His way of coping I suppose".  I will keep you posted.  Regards Lolly.

Hi Lollypop,

Jules husband was also one who didnt like to talk about his cancer which to me makes it harder for their wives,  I hope Jules doesnt mind me telling you this but I think it's because we men feel that we are protecting our partners by doing this but instead we only increase the worry.

I looked at it this way, when we are diagnosed with cancer, we need to talk openly and honestly and share our feelings with each other for we all need help and support more than ever before.

Take care, wishing you good results, Brian.