Hi Emma = I am so sorry you feel so upset about poor old Grandad. Thats only natural and I know anyone in your position would feel the same. 

He most likely feels very different from you and sees it all in a different way.  

There are no answers = some times life makes us walk down dark ways. Stay close to your family and feel their support at this difficult time Emma please. 

When my grandad fell ill with lung cancer - I made sure I had a little video of him talking to me and this has become helpful to everyone as you can hear his voice and he is talking about the family and his past.

We will be thinking of you today - and the upset you feel

All the best

Steven xx

Hi Emma

Sorry that you find yourself having to pop into the forum and do hope others will be along to chat soon. Sadly there is no right or wrong way to deal with how you are feeling about your much loved Grandad being so ill. Emotions take us so much by surprise at such times but when my children were losing their Grandad to cancer he was the one that told them that the best they could do for him was to talk about what they had been up to when they visited - he just wanted to have regular conversation (he was well aware that he did not have long to live). When he was ill my Mum would sit beside his bed and read to him and this seemed to sooth them both as its  not always easy to find the right words  It was not easy but we stuck to each other like glue and they have good memories stored in their heart.  Its 7 years next month since he passed away and I still hold his wise words close to my heart and we talk about him now with love and affection. Be kind to yourself at this diffucult time and Grandad knows you love him and will understand your hurting.  Jules  

my husband has lung cancer his granddaughtesr does not see him now always did but dont think they can cope with it he would love to see her so just keeping hoping