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Grandad with lung cancer.

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My grandad was diagnosed. With stage 4 lung cancer Christmas eve. Which also happens to be my birthday. Horrible day. I'm struggling to see him. Wanting to see him. But not the way he is. He's giving in and I can't cope with it. I can't talk about it. I'm not the talking type. When people talk I just cry so walk away. He's had one lot of chemo. A very very mild dose and he didn't react well at all. His next lot is Monday yet he doesn't know if he wants it. I went to see him today. And I couldn't even bring myself to speak to him. He's not himself and all I want to do is make the most of the time we have. He doesn't want to know his prognosis but we all know jts not long. I just need a bit of advise on how to cope. Rambling like this isn't helping!! 

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    Hi Emma

    Sorry that you find yourself having to pop into the forum and do hope others will be along to chat soon. Sadly there is no right or wrong way to deal with how you are feeling about your much loved Grandad being so ill. Emotions take us so much by surprise at such times but when my children were losing their Grandad to cancer he was the one that told them that the best they could do for him was to talk about what they had been up to when they visited - he just wanted to have regular conversation (he was well aware that he did not have long to live). When he was ill my Mum would sit beside his bed and read to him and this seemed to sooth them both as its  not always easy to find the right words  It was not easy but we stuck to each other like glue and they have good memories stored in their heart.  Its 7 years next month since he passed away and I still hold his wise words close to my heart and we talk about him now with love and affection. Be kind to yourself at this diffucult time and Grandad knows you love him and will understand your hurting.  Jules  

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    Hi Emma

    Sorry that you find yourself having to pop into the forum and do hope others will be along to chat soon. Sadly there is no right or wrong way to deal with how you are feeling about your much loved Grandad being so ill. Emotions take us so much by surprise at such times but when my children were losing their Grandad to cancer he was the one that told them that the best they could do for him was to talk about what they had been up to when they visited - he just wanted to have regular conversation (he was well aware that he did not have long to live). When he was ill my Mum would sit beside his bed and read to him and this seemed to sooth them both as its  not always easy to find the right words  It was not easy but we stuck to each other like glue and they have good memories stored in their heart.  Its 7 years next month since he passed away and I still hold his wise words close to my heart and we talk about him now with love and affection. Be kind to yourself at this diffucult time and Grandad knows you love him and will understand your hurting.  Jules  

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