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Trying to Process a Parent’s Recent Diagnosis - how did you cope in those early days? I'm still struggling with the shock and finding it hard to function

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I know many people here are dealing with very advanced situations, and having spent the morning reading through posts, I have huge respect for what you’re going through. I hesitated to post because my situation feels earlier in the journey, but I am here and posting because I realise I still need support and that it’s okay to ask for it.

One of my parents has recently been diagnosed with bowel cancer, I’m really struggling with the shock and how to process it while still trying to function day to day as a very busy guy. These past few days have been emotionally exhausting, I’m finding it hard to hold everything together.

I’m looking for guidance from others who remember those early days after diagnosis, how you coped, and anything that helped you manage your emotions and the uncertainty of the news.

I’m also here to offer support where I can.

Thank you.

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    Thanks for the messages everybody I'm sorry I hadn't replied it genuinely has been a whirlwind of events since initial diagnosis including emergency surgery after a stent failure, Mums had the tumour removed and now we are just waiting on margin results to see what is next. She has genuinely shocked us all with how well she has dealt with everything, always known she was a fighter but this has certified her title as boss of the family. That alone has given me strength and direction over the last few weeks after the initial shock. I've spent a lot of hours walking and running is rapidly becoming a vice to process my feelings, being in nature has a funny way of helping even if we're heading into winter. I've also spent time talking through things with two really good friends who I respect and trust and having their support really lifted a lot of weight. Although I still have moments of sadness that come in waves, the tears have subsided for now. I really do appreciate you all taking the time to respond to my initial post it really means a lot. Sending you all love and masses of respect. X

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    Thanks for the messages everybody I'm sorry I hadn't replied it genuinely has been a whirlwind of events since initial diagnosis including emergency surgery after a stent failure, Mums had the tumour removed and now we are just waiting on margin results to see what is next. She has genuinely shocked us all with how well she has dealt with everything, always known she was a fighter but this has certified her title as boss of the family. That alone has given me strength and direction over the last few weeks after the initial shock. I've spent a lot of hours walking and running is rapidly becoming a vice to process my feelings, being in nature has a funny way of helping even if we're heading into winter. I've also spent time talking through things with two really good friends who I respect and trust and having their support really lifted a lot of weight. Although I still have moments of sadness that come in waves, the tears have subsided for now. I really do appreciate you all taking the time to respond to my initial post it really means a lot. Sending you all love and masses of respect. X

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