Trying to Process a Parent’s Recent Diagnosis - how did you cope in those early days? I'm still struggling with the shock and finding it hard to function

I know many people here are dealing with very advanced situations, and having spent the morning reading through posts, I have huge respect for what you’re going through. I hesitated to post because my situation feels earlier in the journey, but I am here and posting because I realise I still need support and that it’s okay to ask for it.

One of my parents has recently been diagnosed with bowel cancer, I’m really struggling with the shock and how to process it while still trying to function day to day as a very busy guy. These past few days have been emotionally exhausting, I’m finding it hard to hold everything together.

I’m looking for guidance from others who remember those early days after diagnosis, how you coped, and anything that helped you manage your emotions and the uncertainty of the news.

I’m also here to offer support where I can.

Thank you.

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  • My dad was diagnosed with a Glioblastoma brain tumour recently and I’ve been finding it really emotionally exhausting too. It has affected his cognitive function too which means me and my sister are helping organising his finances and business, as he is not longer able to alongside our own jobs… I get to the end of the day and I’m exhausted. 

    Feeling tired is natural if you’re processing this shock and also being an emotional, and other type of support. I’ve given myself permission to just have moments of time out throughout the day. Sometimes I take the dogs for a walk and I just sit with them on the beach for 5-10 minutes or so just to give myself that alone and restorative time. I’m still in the early stages just like you, so that’s all I’ve learnt so far :). I just take each day at a time and do my best. 

    I’m sure you’re doing a great job too x

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  • My dad was diagnosed with a Glioblastoma brain tumour recently and I’ve been finding it really emotionally exhausting too. It has affected his cognitive function too which means me and my sister are helping organising his finances and business, as he is not longer able to alongside our own jobs… I get to the end of the day and I’m exhausted. 

    Feeling tired is natural if you’re processing this shock and also being an emotional, and other type of support. I’ve given myself permission to just have moments of time out throughout the day. Sometimes I take the dogs for a walk and I just sit with them on the beach for 5-10 minutes or so just to give myself that alone and restorative time. I’m still in the early stages just like you, so that’s all I’ve learnt so far :). I just take each day at a time and do my best. 

    I’m sure you’re doing a great job too x

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