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Coming to the end ? No more treatment for hubby as he's too poorly now. Trying my best to support him but he's deteriorating quickly

Rhubarbdragon
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So hubby has finally been told by Oncologist no more treatment has he is too poorly.

So trying to support him best I can but I think he is deteriorating quite quickly

He is very sleepy and has reduced eating and drinking but is still able to have full conversations between snoozing

It is hard to see him so frail and he is upset that he might not get to see his new grandchild arrive 

I am on a knife edge each time I go into his room but also hoping he just goes to sleep and his suffering ends soon

It is so hard to watch and know nothing can change what will happen.

We tell each other we love each other.

It is such a impactful thing being a carer to your spouse ....To anyone out there in similar situation sending strength

RB

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    Hi Rhubarbdragon, just wanted to send loving wishes. I went through that with my mum many years ago. It was very sad and stressful as I was doing her care those last few months. But it’s obviously a whole different level when it’s your life partner. I really hope your husband can be there for your grandchild’s arrival, and that this time is as peaceful as possible. Will be thinking of you both. I hope you have support for yourself.

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    Hi Rhubarbdragon,

    I am so sorry to hear this. I have been where you are and know how draining and heart breaking it is. When is the new grandchild due? - I hope that he makes it.

    Thinking of you and wishing you the strength to see it through. Always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi RB

    Just saw your post. I feel so deeply for you and your husband. Your posts updating how your husband is living through cancer and how you are caring for him resonates with all of us here. I hope you can find joy in the company of your husband in the precious days ahead and that you can both find a comfortable, peaceful place to be.

    Ed

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    Hello Ed Jolamine and Dawntreader

    Thank you to all of you for your kindness and support 

    I really do appreciate you all taking time to reply.

    Today the palliative nurse came and was able to address some of our concerns and questions

    So we are keeping hopeful that some of his symptoms are due to things that can be improved ( blood tests pending) Fingers crossed

    As previously shared Ed the precious moments mean more and can pop up when least expected.....so even amongst a busy day we shared some time our own way. I call them Golden moments....

    So thank you all again for being a light in the dark for me / us 

    Wishing you all peace and time to share your own golden moments 

    Kindest wishes RB 

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