Confusing time - hospital are adamant that my husband should be on end of life pathway but GP & community nurses disagree, saying he's not near that stage

Hi 

I am wondering if anyone else has felt confused whilst caring for a loved one who has cancer .....

My hubby just came out of hospital where the staff were adamant he has months left to live and should be dnr and on end of life pathway for care though didnt complete the admin for this ...

Meanwhile he is doing okay and our community nurses and gp are like scratching their heads and say No absolutely not anywhere near that stage

It is very confusing ..... Why would the hospital push this ....which was very distressing for hubby and me and family

It was an awful experience.

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  • My oesophagal tumour was diagnosed over 2 years ago and several consultants suggested that I'd be unlikely to see the year. But since I'm writing this you can see that hasn't come about. However, around February last my consultant suggested to the GP that the palliative care nurses ought to be visiting. They did, twice, but then decided that I wasn't as sick as others who needed their help more. So they stopped coming and knocked me off their list. I now get no help from anyone other than the hospital, where I'm for a barium swallow next week, as the oesophagus has narrowed to the point where I can't swallow except for tea, coffee, soup! I feel a bit abandoned. 

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  • My oesophagal tumour was diagnosed over 2 years ago and several consultants suggested that I'd be unlikely to see the year. But since I'm writing this you can see that hasn't come about. However, around February last my consultant suggested to the GP that the palliative care nurses ought to be visiting. They did, twice, but then decided that I wasn't as sick as others who needed their help more. So they stopped coming and knocked me off their list. I now get no help from anyone other than the hospital, where I'm for a barium swallow next week, as the oesophagus has narrowed to the point where I can't swallow except for tea, coffee, soup! I feel a bit abandoned. 

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  • Hello Greysquirrels

    Im not surprised you feel unsupported at the moment when your condition has altered. 

    Hubby had to have a new stent inserted hence hospital inpatient.

    It has made all the difference again and he is now eating and drinking much better/ variety I mention this incase its suggested to you....the team that did that was great....fingers crossed for a good outcome 

    I wonder if you might try having a chat with nurses here or Macmillan nurse support line ?  They really helpful 

    Mostly im sending you a hug 

    Kindest wishes RB