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Confusing time - hospital are adamant that my husband should be on end of life pathway but GP & community nurses disagree, saying he's not near that stage

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Hi 

I am wondering if anyone else has felt confused whilst caring for a loved one who has cancer .....

My hubby just came out of hospital where the staff were adamant he has months left to live and should be dnr and on end of life pathway for care though didnt complete the admin for this ...

Meanwhile he is doing okay and our community nurses and gp are like scratching their heads and say No absolutely not anywhere near that stage

It is very confusing ..... Why would the hospital push this ....which was very distressing for hubby and me and family

It was an awful experience.

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    I'm sorry you are going through this and your husband ,I would go with your Doctor not the hospital ,I say this because my Father in law a few years ago was admitted to hospital after a fall although he seemed fine to us and was just in shock after falling in the house ,( he didn't have cancer) on the same day he was admitted we were asked to sign a DNR in our ignorance we did ,big mistake ,they took him into a room I don't know what happened but the next time we saw him he couldn't breathe he died the next Day ,don't be bullied into DNR I wish you well ...

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    I'm sorry you are going through this and your husband ,I would go with your Doctor not the hospital ,I say this because my Father in law a few years ago was admitted to hospital after a fall although he seemed fine to us and was just in shock after falling in the house ,( he didn't have cancer) on the same day he was admitted we were asked to sign a DNR in our ignorance we did ,big mistake ,they took him into a room I don't know what happened but the next time we saw him he couldn't breathe he died the next Day ,don't be bullied into DNR I wish you well ...

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    Oh my Jenny3109 i am so sorry to hear this happened to your father 

    Thank you for taking time to share what must be very painful for you

    When you are in the moment it is hard to think straight isnt it?

    And we trust the medics and nurses

    I am now very untrusting except of the gp......and of my own judgement too.

    Im sending you hugs for caring 

    Kind wishes

    RB

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