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Overwhelmed and want to scream

Rhubarbdragon
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Does anyone else feel overwhelmed by keeping caring for your loved one ?

Its been over a year since diagnosis with prognosis of 12, months 

Lots of ups and downs during that time 

Im finding it hard to be 'on duty' all the time for hubby the longer we travel this path.

Always feel on high alert for next crisis and spills into other stuff

Own health not great which doesnt help.

 this cancer business is truly cruel for our loved ones and b.....rubbish for us who love em.

If anyone is feeling argh today know you are not alone im quietly screaming into a pillow here too 

Wishing everyone the strength to continue their fights 

RB

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    Hi Rhubarb, 

    I came on here thinking of posting just to vent when I saw your post. Oh my days I totally relate to how you're feeling. 

    I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through this, it's so cruel and I fully understand that feeling of being on high alert. It's exhausting! 

    I feel like my feelings and emotions are constantly being chewed up and spat out. I'm absolutely drained. My Mum is currently in a hospice with stage 4 triple negative breast cancer which has spread to the lungs and liver. She's only just turned 57. Today's been a really tough day and I don't know how much longer I can keep staying strong. She originally went into the hospice to be put out of pain but things are progressing quiet quick and now I don't know if she will come out or not, everything's up in the air. 

    The whole thing is pure turmoil. Sending you hugs and strength x

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    Hi Rhubarb, 

    I came on here thinking of posting just to vent when I saw your post. Oh my days I totally relate to how you're feeling. 

    I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through this, it's so cruel and I fully understand that feeling of being on high alert. It's exhausting! 

    I feel like my feelings and emotions are constantly being chewed up and spat out. I'm absolutely drained. My Mum is currently in a hospice with stage 4 triple negative breast cancer which has spread to the lungs and liver. She's only just turned 57. Today's been a really tough day and I don't know how much longer I can keep staying strong. She originally went into the hospice to be put out of pain but things are progressing quiet quick and now I don't know if she will come out or not, everything's up in the air. 

    The whole thing is pure turmoil. Sending you hugs and strength x

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    Hello Strawberrybear

    I am so sorry to hear about your Mum swift change in health needs 

    It will feel like you are running to keep up with what is happening 

    Take some deep deep breaths and remember the most important thing is you are being there for your mum when she needs you most and that will mean the world to her.

    do you have any family friends to support you?

    The hospice team are there for you too dont be  afraid to tell them how you feel....

    You are very human and going thru  losing a parent is very hard indeed especially at such a young age which makes you young too 

    Sending biggest hugs Stawberrybear 

    RB

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