Struggling with my emotions

I don’t know if this is the right place to post, but I feel a bit desperate at the minute to find people who may feel the same as me. 

Just over 5 weeks ago my dad received a cancer diagnosis, which we have been told has spread, and it is now more of a case of pro longing his life rather than curing it. It has been one of the hardest experiences, I am constantly worried. He has lost his mobility and it has just been awful to watch. I’m currently in my early 20s and nearly 7 months pregnant, and my emotions are just all over the place, and I am really struggling to know who to talk to, or know how to talk to anyone about the matter, as I can’t help but feel it is very depressing. I am starting to worry about work, I haven’t been since we have found the news out, mainly to deal with my emotions, but also to help my dad. I do not feel ready to go back, I am so anxious, but still have a month left until my maternity leave.


I don’t know how long he will have, or really anything regarding the journey ahead, and I just really would like if anyone has any advice on how to cope, and how they approached work.

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  • Dear Directioner102

    I am so sorry you are going through this especially at such a young age and expecting your baby in the next few weeks 

    I am not surprised you are all over the place with your emotions .

    First make an urgent appointment with your midwife they will be able to support you and reassure you regarding all things baby related and with work issues 

    Contact your gp and explain what is happening they can sign you off sick due to your own health needs whilst caring / worrying about your dad.

    Contact Macmillian re dads financial needs my hubby was awarded personal i independence payments  as a fast track due to also being palliative treatment / not curable this has given us some  peace of mind re money issues this may be something dad is worried about they were brilliant 

    Facing this alone is very hard do you have siblings or friends you can talk to? 

    Please look after yourself as a parent of grown up kids I can say hubby doesnt want them to worry your dad may feel this too

    Ask lots of questions of his team contact and  the nurses here knowledge is helpful

    But first of all remember you are important take care of your own needs will help you support your dad. He will want this for you and his grandchild too.

    Keep in touch

    Sending you love and strength RB

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  • Dear Directioner102

    I am so sorry you are going through this especially at such a young age and expecting your baby in the next few weeks 

    I am not surprised you are all over the place with your emotions .

    First make an urgent appointment with your midwife they will be able to support you and reassure you regarding all things baby related and with work issues 

    Contact your gp and explain what is happening they can sign you off sick due to your own health needs whilst caring / worrying about your dad.

    Contact Macmillian re dads financial needs my hubby was awarded personal i independence payments  as a fast track due to also being palliative treatment / not curable this has given us some  peace of mind re money issues this may be something dad is worried about they were brilliant 

    Facing this alone is very hard do you have siblings or friends you can talk to? 

    Please look after yourself as a parent of grown up kids I can say hubby doesnt want them to worry your dad may feel this too

    Ask lots of questions of his team contact and  the nurses here knowledge is helpful

    But first of all remember you are important take care of your own needs will help you support your dad. He will want this for you and his grandchild too.

    Keep in touch

    Sending you love and strength RB

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