I'm really sorry to hear your dad has stage 4 cancer HLP, and that he was started on palliative care yesterday.

This must be a very difficult time for you all but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that our community are here for you HLP and I'm sure some of our members will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

I hope this information we have on supporting the carer will help you and your mum at this time and for now, the best way you can support your dad is to follow his lead and be there for him when he needs you. You may be able to get further information, support and advice from Marie Curie who are experts in caring for someone with a terminal illness and provide practical and emotional support to everyone who is affected, including family and friends.

We also have a team of cancer nurses you can discuss things further with on 0808 800 4040. Their phone lines are open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m and they will do all that they can to help.

Look after yourself HLP, and try to take things one day at a time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I'm in a similar situation. My dad has terminal cancer and is getting weaker and losing weight by the day. My mum is basically his carer at the moment. I work 34hrs a week and have a young child so it's difficult to see them most nights apart from weekends. I can see it's breaking my mum but she is trying to be strong in front of my dad. 

My dad has breakdowns in our company sometimes and I don't know what to say or do other than say don't give up! But at the same time I hate to see him suffer......

It's soo hard..... I feel for you and your family and send lots of love and thoughts your way. Xxx