So sorry to read about what you are going through, it must be so hard for you. My daughters are older than you and since my cancer diagnosis both of them and my wife have been brilliant but sometimes they have all been over attentive towards me. It’s really hard to explain, I don’t want to be a burden and I don’t want people to fuss over me. Now I think we have got it sorted out, after 6 months! If I need any help I will ask, plus the occasional “can I get you anything” from them is nice, even though I usually reply “no thanks darling”. I don’t have a feeding tube, but even with one I guess your dad isn’t an invalid and might prefer to do some things for himself. I know I did even when suffering pretty badly from the side effects of chemo. I hope you and your dad find the best way to make things work for you both, and I hope your dad goes into remission. 

thank you so much, it is definitely tough seeing your own dad ill and i’m glad your daughters were there for you too. my dad doesn’t want us to fuss over him either so i understand where you’re coming from. i hope you are feeling much better and thank you for the reply :)

Welcome. Remember whatever treatment your dad has will have a big impact on him, and therefore on you as well. Again my kids kept asking me if I had any of the side effects, I had to promise them that I would tell them if I did! Everybody seems to react differently to radiotherapy or chemotherapy and also surgery. Whichever your dad has he will need support from you in coping with these. It isn’t going to be easy but you seem like a very mature and caring person, stay strong.

Welcome. Remember whatever treatment your dad has will have a big impact on him, and therefore on you as well. Again my kids kept asking me if I had any of the side effects, I had to promise them that I would tell them if I did! Everybody seems to react differently to radiotherapy or chemotherapy and also surgery. Whichever your dad has he will need support from you in coping with these. It isn’t going to be easy but you seem like a very mature and caring person, stay strong.