Hiya. Sorry you're going through this at such a young age. It's not nice seeing it at any age, but 16 ...

Anyway, i wouldn't go fretting too much over what he needs. When my wife was initially ill, I was pestering her all the time asking if she needed anything, was wanting anything and after a while, i just began to irritate her. I was beginning to annoy myself if truth be told. The best thing to do is just be there for when he does need something. He will tell you. But all you'll achieve until then is to annoy the person you're asking.

We all want to be helpful, and your help comes from a good place, but seriously, just give him a little breathing space. His mind is probably going a million miles an hour worrying about the upcoming tests and potential results, and having someone constantly asking him things might become annoying.

Not saying any of this as a slight on you because i was exactly the same and most people are. But sometimes people just want to be left alone. Yeah, let him be the one to ask if he needs something. It will also do you good to stop being on edge feeling like you need to be doing something to help him. It's only natural, so don't feel bad.

thank you very much, this made me feel much better as i didn’t realise people were in such a similar situation to me. it means a lot. thank you for the advice and ill keep this in mind for the future when he undergoes treatment too. 

thank you very much, this made me feel much better as i didn’t realise people were in such a similar situation to me. it means a lot. thank you for the advice and ill keep this in mind for the future when he undergoes treatment too.