Hi it looks like you are looking for different opinions if I were in your position and this was my Mother I know for a fact I would be encouraging surgery first off because I would see that as a way of possibly prolonging her life ,having said that there as risks in having surgery especially in the elderly ,the other thing is if your Mother has already decided that she wants to wait and she is ok with that then persuading her to change her mind could backfire ,its a very tricky situation trying to do what's best for your Mother but I'm sure at some point you will make the right choice ,its important that they get her constant urine infections under control to make her much more comfortable than she is now ,I hope for the best for your mam and yourself .

Hi it looks like you are looking for different opinions if I were in your position and this was my Mother I know for a fact I would be encouraging surgery first off because I would see that as a way of possibly prolonging her life ,having said that there as risks in having surgery especially in the elderly ,the other thing is if your Mother has already decided that she wants to wait and she is ok with that then persuading her to change her mind could backfire ,its a very tricky situation trying to do what's best for your Mother but I'm sure at some point you will make the right choice ,its important that they get her constant urine infections under control to make her much more comfortable than she is now ,I hope for the best for your mam and yourself .