Husband just diagnosed with Bowel Cancer

Hi All,

My lovely husband has just been diagnosed in the last 3 days with bowel cancer.  We are just waiting to see how far developed it is as to what treatment he is going to receive.  He is incredibly fit and healthy and if he hadn't done the screening test sent to him we would have known no different.  My problem is that although he is fit and well AND incredibly positive I, on the other hand, am really struggling with it.  I am trying to be strong for him but I keep having relapses and I'm terrified of losing the only person in my life.

He has no symptoms whatsoever and has actually just started a sponsored walk for prostate cancer with our dog.  I think what I'm asking is how do people cope in my position and try and stay strong.  I wish so much I had my husbands outlook on life.  He's a pure bred optimist and I'm the original pessimist.

Thanks everyone x

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  • Hello AliT and a big welcome to our forum, 

    I am sorry to hear about your husband's recent bowel cancer diagnosis. The news must have come as a shock to you especially as he is incredibly fit and healthy - I keep everything crossed that it will have been caught early. It just shows how important these little screening tests can be and how they can flag that something needs further investigation. It's good that he is such an optimist and that he is staying positive but don't feel bad yourself about not being a natural optimist - we are all different and your husband will appreciate your support just the way you are. It's normal to be terrified in a situation like this especially as everything is still so uncertain and you will hopefully feel better once you find out more about the treatment plan. 

    You are definitely not alone though on this forum having to deal with the news of a bowel cancer diagnosis and I just wanted to make you aware of  's 'Just had a diagnosis of bowel cancer' thread and feel free to respond to it if you would like to talk to someone who has also received a bowel cancer diagnosis and is waiting to find out more. 

    Keep strong AliT and if you have any questions once you have all the information about your husband's diagnosis and treatment don't hesitate to get in touch with our cancer nurses on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

    It's great that he is doing a sponsored walk with your dog for prostate cancer. I hope it goes well! I will now let our other members who have been in your place before or who have been dealing with a recent cancer diagnosis come and say hello and share their experience with you. 

    Best wishes and wishing your husband the best of luck for the start of his treatment, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hello AliT and a big welcome to our forum, 

    I am sorry to hear about your husband's recent bowel cancer diagnosis. The news must have come as a shock to you especially as he is incredibly fit and healthy - I keep everything crossed that it will have been caught early. It just shows how important these little screening tests can be and how they can flag that something needs further investigation. It's good that he is such an optimist and that he is staying positive but don't feel bad yourself about not being a natural optimist - we are all different and your husband will appreciate your support just the way you are. It's normal to be terrified in a situation like this especially as everything is still so uncertain and you will hopefully feel better once you find out more about the treatment plan. 

    You are definitely not alone though on this forum having to deal with the news of a bowel cancer diagnosis and I just wanted to make you aware of  's 'Just had a diagnosis of bowel cancer' thread and feel free to respond to it if you would like to talk to someone who has also received a bowel cancer diagnosis and is waiting to find out more. 

    Keep strong AliT and if you have any questions once you have all the information about your husband's diagnosis and treatment don't hesitate to get in touch with our cancer nurses on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

    It's great that he is doing a sponsored walk with your dog for prostate cancer. I hope it goes well! I will now let our other members who have been in your place before or who have been dealing with a recent cancer diagnosis come and say hello and share their experience with you. 

    Best wishes and wishing your husband the best of luck for the start of his treatment, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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