Hello Belle6 and a warm welcome to the forum, though so sorry you have to be here and that your husband has cancer. I also have terminal prostate cancer, Though i am sure you have your reasons for not telling your husband he has only days left, my guess would be he already knows he doesn't have long. and I think i would find it upsetting not to be told. Knowing and living with a terminal illness is at times very difficult and having the support of family is so important, for me family is more important than my cancer and knowing how hard my condition affects my family breaks my heart, so maybe your husband pushing his family away is because he is so distressed seeing you all so upset, and thinks you wouldn't be as upset if you were somewhere else, which we both know is not true. He needs the love and support of his family more than ever, best wishes

Eddie