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Partner shutting me out after finding out he has Prostrate Cancer Stage 2. What should I say or do?

Maz-123
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My partner is shutting me out and we have seen each other or really spoken for 8 weeks. After a row wanting to know why he is treating me like this he tells me he has stage 2 cancer. Has not told anyone in his family and had quit his job. He didn't want to tell me cause my dad died of cancer. Says he doesn't want to burden me .... what do I say, what so I do..... any little advise will be greatly appreciated 

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    Hi Maz-123 and welcome to the forum, though sorry you have to be here. Being told you have cancer is a difficult and emotional experience and a shock to the system for us all and takes time to come to terms with, Maz stage 2 prostate cancer is 100% curable and often may not even need treating for some time, just regular tests to keep an eye on it. I'm sure his doctor would have told him this. So there is no urgency regarding treatment, and time for him to come to terms with having cancer, maybe he just needs a little time and space, take care.

    Eddie

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    Thank you for your reply, it means a lot. He has completely shut himself away. Quit his job, been to solicitors and everything else. To be honest I don't know if he is telling me everything or he has done this because he is scared. 

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    Thanks for the reply. I feel like I'm stuck in limbo. I totally understand the space, but feel like I am being pushed away when all I want to do is help. He has quit his job, been to see solicitors. I don't know if he is telling me everything or not. I know he is scared but he won't say it. 

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    I don't know your partner and i have every sympathy with everyone who gets a cancer diagnosis, and have known a few with stage 2 PCa but your partners actions are unusual, I wonder if he has been given a prognosis as people who are told their cancer is curable are usually happy.

    Eddie

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    Hi Maz i see you have sent me a friend request, which i am happy to accept

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