Hello Holly, 

You've come to the right place to talk to others who have gone through something similar and I hope that they will share their coping skills or give you tips to help you get through this incredibly difficult time. Your mum seems great fun and to have a real young spirit despite what happened to her with getting an infection in her hip replacement and becoming disabled overnight. What a blow it must have been to you to then find out a year later that she has stage 3B cervical cancer . I am sure your mum appreciates having you by her side and I am glad that she is receiving the help and support of carers 4 times a day. It's totally understandable to feel you are in no man's land and this is a feeling many members of our community will have experienced too. It must be frustrating after she went through all these sessions of palliative radiotherapy not to be given any follow up scans to see how successful the treatment was. 

It's a very difficult time for you especially as you seem to have such a close bond to your mum and the idea of losing her must be very painful. Our website has helpful information for Family, friends and caregivers with helpful advice to help you support someone with cancer without forgetting too to take care of yourself. Finding time to focus on yourself can be really hard in a situation like this but it is really important so you can recharge your own batteries and have a little bit more strength to help your mum and be there for her. 

I will now let our members who have looked after a loved one with cancer come and say hello and share their own thoughts and stories with you. 

Best wishes to you and your mum, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Holly, 

You've come to the right place to talk to others who have gone through something similar and I hope that they will share their coping skills or give you tips to help you get through this incredibly difficult time. Your mum seems great fun and to have a real young spirit despite what happened to her with getting an infection in her hip replacement and becoming disabled overnight. What a blow it must have been to you to then find out a year later that she has stage 3B cervical cancer . I am sure your mum appreciates having you by her side and I am glad that she is receiving the help and support of carers 4 times a day. It's totally understandable to feel you are in no man's land and this is a feeling many members of our community will have experienced too. It must be frustrating after she went through all these sessions of palliative radiotherapy not to be given any follow up scans to see how successful the treatment was. 

It's a very difficult time for you especially as you seem to have such a close bond to your mum and the idea of losing her must be very painful. Our website has helpful information for Family, friends and caregivers with helpful advice to help you support someone with cancer without forgetting too to take care of yourself. Finding time to focus on yourself can be really hard in a situation like this but it is really important so you can recharge your own batteries and have a little bit more strength to help your mum and be there for her. 

I will now let our members who have looked after a loved one with cancer come and say hello and share their own thoughts and stories with you. 

Best wishes to you and your mum, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator