How to look after my caregiver

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. I am going to see the oncologist today to find out when I start chemo etc. I am just taking it a day at a time and getting on with life as normal but my partner is finding it really difficult coping with my diagnosis. He is coming to all my appointments with me and trying to find out from friends and colleagues what to expect. He just isn't sleeping and snaps at me if I mention anything such as the garden or decorating - I do these things normally and am still planning on getting them done myself in the not too distant future. He feels I am putting pressure on him mentioning these things and just wants to concentrate on what is going to happen. How can I help him?  I don’t want to put life on hold I still want to plan for the future. 

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  • Hi Ccot,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Unfortunately, A cancer diagnosis doesn't just affect the person who has it, but their entire family. I am 14 years down the line, after having had 2 bouts of breast cancer within a year. My husband found my diagnosis very difficult to cope with. He eventually went to see a counsellor at the Haven and he found this very helpful in getting things back into proportion - Maggies offer a similar service and I would highly recommend this, when he is struggling. Charities such as these can give him some idea of what is likely to lie ahead, although as individuals, we often find bends in the road along our journey.

    I sincerely hope that all goes well with your treatment. You will find that it gets easier to cope with, when you have a definite treatment plan in place.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you both get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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  • Hi Ccot,

    A very warm welcome to our forum.

    I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Unfortunately, A cancer diagnosis doesn't just affect the person who has it, but their entire family. I am 14 years down the line, after having had 2 bouts of breast cancer within a year. My husband found my diagnosis very difficult to cope with. He eventually went to see a counsellor at the Haven and he found this very helpful in getting things back into proportion - Maggies offer a similar service and I would highly recommend this, when he is struggling. Charities such as these can give him some idea of what is likely to lie ahead, although as individuals, we often find bends in the road along our journey.

    I sincerely hope that all goes well with your treatment. You will find that it gets easier to cope with, when you have a definite treatment plan in place.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you both get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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