My partner diagnosed at stage 4 cancer at age 30

I don't even know what to write. I just feel like I need to talk to people who understand what we are going through as a family. I'm 29 my partner 30 we have been together 11 years. We have a 8 year boy and 3 year old twin boys. 

He started getting a lump on his back being his typical laid back self he put off getting it seen. It's now fungating and he finally got see on Friday at a&e followed by a ct scan yesterday showing the cancer has spread to his lung and arm pit. We are absolutely devastated. How on earth do we well our boys, what do we tell them when we are so unsure of everything ourselves. 

We are so young I just can not get my head around this. We doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, never touched a drug in his life now this devastating news. 

We have an appointment tomorrow with the consultant to find out what treatment if any will be offered but I'm fearing the worst he's in pain and so tired and pale already I fear the end is only around the corner.

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  • Hi Taylor, I'm really sorry to hear this and I can totally understand. I'm 28, my partner is 30 and he was initially diagnosed when he was 27. We've gone through countless rounds of chemo, immunotherapy and radiotherapy, and most recently a stem cell transplant. Things are tough and they just get tougher and tougher as time goes on and you see the person you love become less and less before your own eyes. We don't have children and I can't even imagine the thought of having to break the news to them. My heart truly goes out to you and your family.

    Have you had anymore news on a treatment plan? Do you know the stage or how fast it is spreading?

    I will send you a friend request, my messages are always open if you want to share or discuss anything xxx

  • Hey I'm so sorry to hear about your situation! I can't help but feel so alone with all this. So he has started immunotherapy yesterday so far he's grand no side effects but dread these coming. We are currently waiting on brain ct results to see if it's spread. Apart from that we still haven't much of a clue what's going on or how fast it's spread or how long or what happens if this treatment doesn't work as we have been told unfortunately at this stage they won't be able to operate. Its so so hard already watching him deteriote and I know its only going to get worse.

    He is staying positive but I think he's almost just in disbelief or doesn't want to admit how much it has effected life already 

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