My Mum has opted out of treatment and I don't know what to do for the best

My Mum was diagnosed with BC 2 years ago. She opted out of any treatment. She was a nurse for 40 years, is incredibly independent and we talked about her choice. I respect her wishes. It is not easy as I don't really know what to do, if anything.

My Mum has kept eating healthy, is not overweight, goes for daily walks, is very positive and until now, has not had any problems.

Her cancer is now turning into external bleeding lumps which she cares for by keeping them clean ect. She takes it easy if it hurts too much and is absolutely adamant that she will not go to a doctor.

I feel that when she does start to decline, I won't have any idea what I should do. Mum says that if she absolutely needs to go into hospital then she will and I shouldn't worry too much.

Does anyone have or is having the same experience?

Thank you xx

Parents
  • Sorry to hear about mum it’s hard to watch your loved one going through this. Probably best to take a day at a time and build good memories with mum as you can. Does she have any thing she wants to do while she can?  Even on treatments she would be having symptoms, will she talk to her surgery for support or can you contact local Macmillan centre.        My mum passed in March also very independent,  at home alone to the last where she fell, and didn’t get up. She was adamant that she was not going to hospital, as she knew that they wouldn’t allow her home alone she was 92.  I hope you are able to support your mum , take care.

    susie

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  • Sorry to hear about mum it’s hard to watch your loved one going through this. Probably best to take a day at a time and build good memories with mum as you can. Does she have any thing she wants to do while she can?  Even on treatments she would be having symptoms, will she talk to her surgery for support or can you contact local Macmillan centre.        My mum passed in March also very independent,  at home alone to the last where she fell, and didn’t get up. She was adamant that she was not going to hospital, as she knew that they wouldn’t allow her home alone she was 92.  I hope you are able to support your mum , take care.

    susie

Children
  • Hi Susie,

    So sorry to hear that you lost your Mum in March.

    Your Mum sounds like mine and I am pleased that she was able to stay at home.

    Mum has a dog who is also elderly and going blind so she is not yet interested in doing things until the dog is no longer with her. They are so sweet together. I think they are keeping each other going.

    Thank you xxxx