Mum has stage 4 lung cancer

Hiya, I'm 20 years old and my mum is 49. Mum has recently had a few lumps come up around her body including her head, pelvis, leg. She was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, and unfortunately it is already gone so far it can't be treated. They haven't given her very long to live (months). She did have some radiotherapy on her head, pelvis, and leg, but she isn't having anymore. She was going to have chemotherapy but the doctors decided it would only do more damage than good. Mum is now home from hospital (has been for nearly 2 weeks). I am the main person caring for her, and I just would like to know some things I should expect from the time now on. She has a large lump on her head, towards the back, that is really big (like a large potato) and looks like it's stretching the skin, and mum keeps complaining of headaches and saying it feels like it is tight. I am worried it could burst. Mum can't walk very well at all, she has to use a zimmer frame when getting to the bathroom. There has been a couple of times recently where she hasn't made it in time to the toilet and she is having some difficulty hearing, and also had a small choking/ inhaling incident at dinner tonight. I'm just starting to get a bit worried and wondering what to expect. I've done lots of research online about end of life care and what I should be looking out for but it's quite hard to really get a clear picture of it. Thanks in advance 

  • Hi Jelly74,

    I just wanted to say what an amazingly daughter you are I'm sorry I can't help with your post, however I'd imagine you could ask at the hospital, hospice  Maggies or mcMillian etc. 

    I just couldnt passby your message. It struck me hard, you're so young please remember to take care of yourself too.

    Sending you a hug 

    Xx 

     

  • Hi have you contacted McMillan or marie currie .your the hospital should have arranged palative care at least .you shouldnt have to deal with this alone .if you ring your local hospice fo advice they should give you advice etc .been a few years since i lost my partner but thats what they did then .marie currie has a helpline you can call and speak to a cancer nurse they were excelant .ive lost faith in gps now .but you should get advice from them . We none of us know what to do realy but there is help out there if you ask for it .p