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Living with Lung cancer and a temper

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My Husband has been diagnosed with stage 2 lung cancer and the attitude is just getting worse. It was never brilliant but he now is just getting worse. He drinks too much and has a sharp temper so many evenings are spoilt by this. Married many years but he seems to be constantly annoyed with me, the children, friends who he never phoned,  but they phone him to see how he is. He’s so pleasant though outside the house and especially with the Nurses. I still work and look after grand children in my spare time so not under his feet. Words of wisdom please to make sense of this all. Thanks. 

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    Thank you so much all for your replies.. I do think this confirms what I think in that you know it's wrong and difficult but needs turned around to not waste any more precious time. Rationality seems to have gone out the window, replaced by walking on eggshells. Whilst not wanting to put anything on the grown-up children as they have their lives to live, living remotely as we do especially in winter isn't great for my 'coping mechanisms'. It probably won't be acceptable to him but we could move back both closer to them and small grandchildren and where we lived for >20 years as still know a lot of people. Covid has a lot to answer for as I would normally be in an office with a variety of ages that was always good for the soul.  There are new C T scans due this week as he hasn't been too well - he has had surgery last year followed by radiotherapy  no chemo though as after 1 session he couldn't seem to take it further. Am worried about his lifestyle but we will see what the new year brings.

    Thanks again as much appreciated. 

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    Thank you so much all for your replies.. I do think this confirms what I think in that you know it's wrong and difficult but needs turned around to not waste any more precious time. Rationality seems to have gone out the window, replaced by walking on eggshells. Whilst not wanting to put anything on the grown-up children as they have their lives to live, living remotely as we do especially in winter isn't great for my 'coping mechanisms'. It probably won't be acceptable to him but we could move back both closer to them and small grandchildren and where we lived for >20 years as still know a lot of people. Covid has a lot to answer for as I would normally be in an office with a variety of ages that was always good for the soul.  There are new C T scans due this week as he hasn't been too well - he has had surgery last year followed by radiotherapy  no chemo though as after 1 session he couldn't seem to take it further. Am worried about his lifestyle but we will see what the new year brings.

    Thanks again as much appreciated. 

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