Confused - End of Life

My mum has had non-Hodgkin lymphoma for 21years & malt lymphoma for 9 years, she finished her chemo in April 24 as it had made no difference. She has been ok. In the past 2 months she has had high calcium and a number of falls. We now find ourselves in hospital after a fall with high calcium which they had been treating. The Drs have spoken about end of life. This is where I am confused, since the chat my mums calcium level has dropped ans she is currently not having any fluids, she is very alert, talkative, eating more not what I expected if she is nearing the end of her life. So I’m thinking she’s getting better but have I got it wrong and gradually she will become unwell again but they won’t treat her and will let nature take its course. 

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  • Hi MaryCE 13, and a warm welcome to the forum, I am sorry to hear your mums chemotherapy hasn't helped, it's good to hear her calcium levels have improved and she's doing better. As someone who used to work in palliative/end of life care, and who is now on it, and for over a year, my understanding is it refers to the care for anyone with a life shortening illness, up to 1 year is often mentioned, but as we know there is a lot of guesswork with any prognosis, your mum sounds like a strong resilient lady. my best wishes to you both.

    Eddie

  • Thank you for your reply, sorry to hear your news. Yes the wording is very confusing, my mum is a fighter who amazes me all the time with how well she deals with her diagnosis and everything that comes along. I’m going to be taking it day by day. I wish you all the best. 

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