Lung Cancer and weight loss

Hello,my name is Andy my mum has had Lung cancer for 7 years,she has had immunotherapy which did stiop tumours growing they are quite large but several years ago she git Adrenal cancer,then several months ago she kept being admitted the hospital said she had Gastritus lost lots of weight and since has had a scan showing new spots now on her lungs and liver untreatable,they said it's a 1% chance of working..She hasn't eaten hardly anything fir 2 months,but when admitted over the last week brain scan cts tests on heart and bloods indicate nothing,they have told her the eating is nothing to do with the cancer CATEGORICALLY and she has now been sent home so weak my dad has to change her and do everything fir here..She's ttally confused and very angry,as absolutely no reasons given fir hr bringing up the food se eats,she has had the protein shakes nothing works..we are absolutely desperate as the hosital was titally useless just sent her home with no advice absolutely nothing,they even said come back if it doesn't imprive..She can barely walk two months ago she looked fine,why do they have no explaination,i presumed it was the cancer bit no mention of cachexia,she has also lost her eyesight and another thing they can't explain..Surely this cannot be right,she'll be lucky to live fir a week the condition she;s in we don't know what to do..She and my father are titally distressed,they haven't offered any feeding tube just said come back,this is extremely strange,she will literally starve to death and not from the cancer...Please could you give me some advice i'm so desperate fir my mother to get some sort of answr or advice..Many Thanks Andy F..

  • Hello again,does anyone have any advoce on who to contact about her eating had my dad on the phone in tears,they are both in their late 70s my da has never had to do anything like changing my mum befure or anything and my mum seems in shock and distressed as to why she can't keep food down..I still can't understand why they did not keep her in and give her a feeding tube to get some nutrients intio her body,non of this makes any sense..I've currently git flu so i can't even get round to my parents house without compromising her.

  • Hello pendulum, 

    Just wanted to let you know our nurses will respond to your post in the next few days but if you wanted to get hold of them earlier for advice, you can ring their free helpline on 0808 800 4040 Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm (except New Year's Day)

    As it's the weekend and given the situation and the fact that your mum is not eating I think it might be a good idea to ring 999 (or at the very least 111 for advice on what to do in this situation) as you would not want her to dehydrate and you need to know what the best course of action would be in her current state. Your poor dad should not be doing all this and you want to be sure your mum is ok so you need to get her seen by a medical expert as soon as possible.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator 

  • Thanks for the reply Lucie,as i said she was sent home from Hospital having spent four days in there,they said the noting being able to eat is not cancer related,she's been like this fir two months as she was hospitalised 2 months ago as well coughing up blood..Since then she has hardly eaten,i questioned her to as wether it was the cancer and she just confirmed it wasn't..Shes imply can't keep anything down,i didn't ask her about drinking as well,obviously of she's not drinking either then that's even more worriiesome,i don't know what they did with her in the 4 days in hospital i'm not sure she's eaten in weeks properly,not even the protein shakes they gave her..I will phone her tomorrow and if she isn't drinking then i will use the helpline,my mum is a really tough person the fact my dad is changing her and doing everything for her makes me very concerned,she isn't that type of person...She has someone coming to check her eyes as well as she's lost her vision,it just seems ridiculous the hospital have not kept her in..Thanks fir your reply Lucie 

  • Hello Andy and thanks for posting.

    I am sorry to learn of your mum's situation and that she is very weak and sounds very frail. This must be so difficult for both you and your dad.

    As Lucie has mentioned if you are getting concerned that she is dehydrated and deteriorating quickly get urgent help from NHS 111 or dial 999.

    I wondered if the GP is aware of your mum's situation. If her cancer team doesn't think the cancer is causing it, the GP will be in charge of your mum's medical care whilst she is at home. They can assess, and refer her to the hospital and a dietician either at the hospital or there may be a dietician in the community.

    Your dad could see if he could get an urgent referral.

    I hope your mum can get the help she needs. Do come back to us if you would like to talk things through with one of our nurses on the helpline. The freephone number to call is 0808 800 4040 and we are available between 9 am and 5 pm Monday to Friday

    Take care,

    Jemma

  • Hello again,so i mentioned my mum had lost her vision my dad was fed up and so yet another trip to the hospital and it turns out she had a stroke,ptobably 3/4 weeks ago and they missed it..Honestly it's just a disgrace,she had a stroke over 30 years ago and this never crossed their minds,the stuff my mums gone through is just horriffic,i won't name the Hospital but if you remember the maternity deaths over decades it's that Hospital..Not fit for purpose,my daughter has just passed her exams and is now officially a Dr and she cannot believe what's happening.. 

  • Thanks fir reply Jemma,my mum came home and i have had flu so not even git to see my mum again and then she git hospitalised yet again,sorry i've only just seen your reply,now my dad is getting some help in,i said i can move in with him if things get to much..Thanks for the advice and reply..