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Worried about my father

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My father was undergoing radiotherapy for prostate cancer, developed a cough lumps and in a lot of pain. He won’t allow us to attended appointments and hardly speaks about how his feeling. 
All he will say is don’t worry I’m just tired! Today the hospital rang and have stopped his radiotherapy and called him in today for immediate testing. 
again we don’t know y as he won’t say. Should we be worried that this may be the start of the end and prepare to make him comfortable?

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    Hi , how awful for you. You must be feeling really helpless. Your  dad is obviously not wanting to share his news possibly out of protective concern for you, or maybe he’s just taking it all n himself first. I feel that you should respect his wishes but let him know you are there to talk if he wishes . You can get support yourself / and or your dad from Maggie’s cancer centre or from any of the cancer charities helplines . X

  • Hello and thank you for your post,

    I am sorry to hear about your father's prostate cancer diagnosis, and I appreciate that you want to understand more about his situation.

    I realise that your father not sharing what is happening causes worry. It is possible that he may think that talking about his situation is going to cause you more worry than not knowing. So do tell him that not knowing is more worrying. It could also mean that he finds it difficult and can't talk about it.

    I am afraid that we cannot throw anymore light on this for you. In the meantime try not to resist asking too many questions. And remember that it is likely that as time passes that he will share with you what is happening to him.  Keep in contact with him as this will help you to see what is happening and what help he may need.

    We have information on our website about living with prostate cancer, it includes information on the psychological impact it can have and also about the support people can get. This might be helpful for you to read, you can see it here.

    Please get back to us if you need any more information or support.  You may find it helpful to talk things through with one of the nurses on our helpline.  The number to call is Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

    Take care,

    Caroline 

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