Anxiety Going Through The Roof

Hi!

I really really need some reassureance is its possible. My husband has had a diagnosis of recurring bowel cancer after being clear for the last 5 months. Since we got that diagnosis I have been unable to function normally or focus on anything at all. He is the one who is as far as I can see holding it all together but I know his head will be all over the place. He says I'm constantly reminding him of it and he is trying to forget about it just now because I keep breaking down at the least wee thing.  We got this diagnosis two weeks ago and we see the oncologist Thursday of this week to find out hopefully a management plan. When we saw the surgeon who told us about this new diagnosis she said that the cancer had come back in his stomach lining and pelvis but said it is `slow growing`.  Her colorectoral nurse assistant mentioned that they may want to insert a stent into him but what would this be for. I have made the big mistake of constantly `googling` information and some of it contradicts each other some information says recurring bowel cancer can be cured and then another says it can't. I'm so confused and its driving me round the bend. I know I shouldn't do it but can't help it.  It's getting to the stage I don't really want to go to this appointment with him on Thursday incase the oncologist says different to what the surgeon says. She said it is `slow growing` and he still has years in front of him not days, weeks or months and this has stuck in my head but I am really scared the oncologist will say different. Thanks.

 

Vicky

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  • Hi again Vicky, I have just realised that your question was for the nurses, which means I shouldn't have answered your post.  My apologies.  Violet.

  • Hi Violet!

     

    Yes I feel you did overstep the mark and was a bit blunt but I feel that is waht I need. Yes I do know I am making it `all about me` I have health issues of my own too. We have been together for 39 years 36 of those just married and I really don't know what I will do without him!  should it come to that!  Already I am visualising myself on my own and I don't like what I am visualising. His surgeon said his recurring cancer is slow growing and it could be years down the line before anything really serious happens but its just we have lost so many members of our family to cancer and where it has been hard to accept that those family are no longer here it is a whole different story when it lands on your doorstep as you will know. 

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  • Hi Violet!

     

    Yes I feel you did overstep the mark and was a bit blunt but I feel that is waht I need. Yes I do know I am making it `all about me` I have health issues of my own too. We have been together for 39 years 36 of those just married and I really don't know what I will do without him!  should it come to that!  Already I am visualising myself on my own and I don't like what I am visualising. His surgeon said his recurring cancer is slow growing and it could be years down the line before anything really serious happens but its just we have lost so many members of our family to cancer and where it has been hard to accept that those family are no longer here it is a whole different story when it lands on your doorstep as you will know. 

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