Unsure whether someone is lying

How do you go about finding out this is a lie? Or if it is? 
 

My sister and I stopped talking for a couple of weeks over an argument. She then messaged me asking to see my son and I said no and to leave us alone, which then lead her to telling me she had secondary liver cancer. I believed her straight away and the next week I went round and seen her. She couldn't stop crying, she was so fixacted on the fact she was going to die. We got over our differences and I was there for her, but I started to doubt it when she didn't tell anyone except close family about it. After that everything she was saying didn't make sense. Having chemo at home? Does that happen? The few people I've asked about it said it doesn't sound right. She drinks alcohol on occasions is that allowed? She still dyes her hair too? She doesn't know what stage it is? I have no experience with cancer so I'm not sure what's right and what isn't. Apparently the chemo hasn't worked for her and she isn't allowed an operation so she now has to have injections? One injection a week for 3 months, but I'm not sure what injections they are. The few people I've spoken to about this have said it must be a lie so she can keep my son in her life. I'm so clueless. I just need advice if this sounds like she is lying or could it actually be genuine? 

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  • Hello there

    I am sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself and I can see it must be difficult to know what to believe at the moment.

    Unfortunately no one here will be able to say if your sister is lying I'm afraid and it is important to try and sit down and ask her some more specific information about her cancer ( stage) and treatment names, if you can.

    Some patients do receive chemotherapy and other cancer treatments at home, either taken in tablet form or through a drip. When treatment is no longer working often there are alternatives that are tried to treat the cancer instead, this may also come in several forms being tablets, Intravenous or as an injection with different timings and frequencies depending on the drug.

    Whilst patients are usually discouraged from drinking alcohol during treatment the odd one on special occasions can be okay to have.

    Not all cancer treatments and chemotherapy will cause hair loss and as long as there are no scalp or skin issues some people will continue to colour their hair throughout treatment with guidance from the medical team involved.

    We have information on liver cancer and it's treatments here. Interestingly you can read that usually if chemotherapy is given it is directly instead into the liver itself called trans arterial chemo embolisation (tace) that takes place in a xray radiology unit.

    Targeted cancer or immunotherapy drugs are however also used for liver cancer here and these can be given as tablets or through a drip. Some patients may also refer to these as chemo so it is best not to jump too quickly to any conclusions until you know more.

    I'm afraid only time and more information from your sister is going to give you the answers you are looking for. As others have said on here offer to attend an appointment with her to support her and see what she has to say.

    Take care

    Naomi

  • Hi, thank you for the reply. 
     

    I spoken to her yesterday as that's when she started her injections. She said they are called Bevacizumab injections? Does that correspond to what she is telling me? When I asked what they were called I was expecting her to give an excuse saying she forgot or didn't know how to spell it etc 

  • Hello,

    As my colleague says,  it is difficult for us to know if your sister has cancer or not.

    But what I can say, is that Bevacizumab is a drug that is used to treat many different types of cancer. I have placed a link to it here. 

    Take care,

    Sarah.

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