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Unsure whether someone is lying

Mary98
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How do you go about finding out this is a lie? Or if it is? 
 

My sister and I stopped talking for a couple of weeks over an argument. She then messaged me asking to see my son and I said no and to leave us alone, which then lead her to telling me she had secondary liver cancer. I believed her straight away and the next week I went round and seen her. She couldn't stop crying, she was so fixacted on the fact she was going to die. We got over our differences and I was there for her, but I started to doubt it when she didn't tell anyone except close family about it. After that everything she was saying didn't make sense. Having chemo at home? Does that happen? The few people I've asked about it said it doesn't sound right. She drinks alcohol on occasions is that allowed? She still dyes her hair too? She doesn't know what stage it is? I have no experience with cancer so I'm not sure what's right and what isn't. Apparently the chemo hasn't worked for her and she isn't allowed an operation so she now has to have injections? One injection a week for 3 months, but I'm not sure what injections they are. The few people I've spoken to about this have said it must be a lie so she can keep my son in her life. I'm so clueless. I just need advice if this sounds like she is lying or could it actually be genuine? 

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    Hello Mary98,

                          do you have any choice other than to accept this at face value?, by this l mean how would you cope in the future if you doubted and distanced yourself from your sister and the worst came to pass.If it subsequently proved to be a sham,then you could not reproach yourself for doing the right thing.

    l had secondary liver cancer and was fortunate enough for it to be in a position on the liver to make surgery possible,60% removed but told another two weeks and the spread would have ruled that out. At no time did l feel ill with this,that all came later with the subsequent chemo. When you commence chemo you are closely monitored to see if it is having an impact, and it can be seen as negative within a few months,some types of cancers do not respond to treatment. So if surgery is not possible,chemo has no effect,all that is left is is to try to slow the growth and give space and time for the patient to reach acceptance.This is where your sister could be at, with no need to attend hospital to get any limited treatment left available,and no need to forgo any limited pleasures left available to her whilst her health still allows it.Speed of the spread can vary depending upon cancer type and its aggressiveness,but its forward march will be relentless.In answer to your question ,the scenario you described is very much possible.

    In all events l am glad to read that you are reconciled with your sister,and if dying her hair brings some happiness into her life and makes her feel better,then rejoice ifor her in the benefits that delivers,and enjoy your time you have together,secure in the knowledge that your actions are all positive,

                                                                             david

                               

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    Hello Mary98,

                          do you have any choice other than to accept this at face value?, by this l mean how would you cope in the future if you doubted and distanced yourself from your sister and the worst came to pass.If it subsequently proved to be a sham,then you could not reproach yourself for doing the right thing.

    l had secondary liver cancer and was fortunate enough for it to be in a position on the liver to make surgery possible,60% removed but told another two weeks and the spread would have ruled that out. At no time did l feel ill with this,that all came later with the subsequent chemo. When you commence chemo you are closely monitored to see if it is having an impact, and it can be seen as negative within a few months,some types of cancers do not respond to treatment. So if surgery is not possible,chemo has no effect,all that is left is is to try to slow the growth and give space and time for the patient to reach acceptance.This is where your sister could be at, with no need to attend hospital to get any limited treatment left available,and no need to forgo any limited pleasures left available to her whilst her health still allows it.Speed of the spread can vary depending upon cancer type and its aggressiveness,but its forward march will be relentless.In answer to your question ,the scenario you described is very much possible.

    In all events l am glad to read that you are reconciled with your sister,and if dying her hair brings some happiness into her life and makes her feel better,then rejoice ifor her in the benefits that delivers,and enjoy your time you have together,secure in the knowledge that your actions are all positive,

                                                                             david

                               

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