Unsure whether someone is lying

How do you go about finding out this is a lie? Or if it is? 
 

My sister and I stopped talking for a couple of weeks over an argument. She then messaged me asking to see my son and I said no and to leave us alone, which then lead her to telling me she had secondary liver cancer. I believed her straight away and the next week I went round and seen her. She couldn't stop crying, she was so fixacted on the fact she was going to die. We got over our differences and I was there for her, but I started to doubt it when she didn't tell anyone except close family about it. After that everything she was saying didn't make sense. Having chemo at home? Does that happen? The few people I've asked about it said it doesn't sound right. She drinks alcohol on occasions is that allowed? She still dyes her hair too? She doesn't know what stage it is? I have no experience with cancer so I'm not sure what's right and what isn't. Apparently the chemo hasn't worked for her and she isn't allowed an operation so she now has to have injections? One injection a week for 3 months, but I'm not sure what injections they are. The few people I've spoken to about this have said it must be a lie so she can keep my son in her life. I'm so clueless. I just need advice if this sounds like she is lying or could it actually be genuine? 

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  • Secondary liver cancer would mean it's terminal. Stage 4. Secondary means it has spread outside of the local area.

    This doesn't hold true for all types of cancer, so it's not a definitive answer. My wife has breast cancer and I'll tell you what i have learned. Some chemo can be taken at home. It comes in pill form. IV gets given in a hospital setting. But i know with breast cancer, there are some "take at home" types. As for the injections, again, some things are injected. For example, my wife's cancer is HER2+, and she has to get 12 injections (usually along with her chemo, during the IV stage), then when her chemo ends, has 7 more injections she has to be given at hospital, with 3 weeks in between each one.

    My wife has no liver involvement, so the liver isn't compromised. She was told she could have the occasional drink. And she'll maybe have a cider every 2 or 3 weeks. No idea if she could take more, but that's what she sticks too.

    You'll know one way or the other if she's being truthful eventually. Probably not helpful, but I'm no cancer specialist. Just telling you what i have picked up here and there since my wife was diagnosed. Unfortunately, you get people that do do this. If she proclaims she's cured in no time at all, I'd take that as a huge red flag. Solid cancers (non blood cancers) require an op of some kind. Chemo, radiotherapy etc are just a means to kill/shrink the cancer. But the tissue still needs to be removed with margins before treatment ends if it's not terminal.

    If she ever does claim to be cured within the next few months, you'll also know it's a lie. No doctor worth their salt proclaims anyone with the cancer involvement your sister claims to have is "cured". They use "no evidence of disease". If people with lesser involvement don't get told they're "cured", your sister won't. That takes years of no reoccurrence. Even then, they still don't use the word "cured"

    Also, ask if you can go to her next hospital appointment. Even if it's just to wait outside for her.  People that are lying will come up with excuses why you can't.

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  • Secondary liver cancer would mean it's terminal. Stage 4. Secondary means it has spread outside of the local area.

    This doesn't hold true for all types of cancer, so it's not a definitive answer. My wife has breast cancer and I'll tell you what i have learned. Some chemo can be taken at home. It comes in pill form. IV gets given in a hospital setting. But i know with breast cancer, there are some "take at home" types. As for the injections, again, some things are injected. For example, my wife's cancer is HER2+, and she has to get 12 injections (usually along with her chemo, during the IV stage), then when her chemo ends, has 7 more injections she has to be given at hospital, with 3 weeks in between each one.

    My wife has no liver involvement, so the liver isn't compromised. She was told she could have the occasional drink. And she'll maybe have a cider every 2 or 3 weeks. No idea if she could take more, but that's what she sticks too.

    You'll know one way or the other if she's being truthful eventually. Probably not helpful, but I'm no cancer specialist. Just telling you what i have picked up here and there since my wife was diagnosed. Unfortunately, you get people that do do this. If she proclaims she's cured in no time at all, I'd take that as a huge red flag. Solid cancers (non blood cancers) require an op of some kind. Chemo, radiotherapy etc are just a means to kill/shrink the cancer. But the tissue still needs to be removed with margins before treatment ends if it's not terminal.

    If she ever does claim to be cured within the next few months, you'll also know it's a lie. No doctor worth their salt proclaims anyone with the cancer involvement your sister claims to have is "cured". They use "no evidence of disease". If people with lesser involvement don't get told they're "cured", your sister won't. That takes years of no reoccurrence. Even then, they still don't use the word "cured"

    Also, ask if you can go to her next hospital appointment. Even if it's just to wait outside for her.  People that are lying will come up with excuses why you can't.

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