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suspected breast cancer and worried anxious waiting

Mumgrey
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Hey 

feel like I'm going crazy, found a lump in my right breast   On Thursday, managed to get GP appointment. Early last week . At this point I was a little worried but not really.  Urgent 2ww referral made to the clinic and now having to wait until the 14th. 
feeling very alone and frightened as I'm 44 I have 2 children in their 20's and 2 younger ones at secondary school. My younger children's father and partner advises not to worry anyone until I have my tests. I don't have a great support network in either friends or family.
 

I don't want to worry my oldest ones but I do have a sinking feeling and anxiety that it is cancer... not just because of the lump but other ongoing symptoms. The thought of getting a diagnosis and then sharing it with them seems harder than maybe preparing them by sharing it as suspected. I believe they would want to know now rather than after a diagnosis or I am being selfish? 
everything online talks about waiting for a diagnosis.
 

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    The only thing I would say is ... You should do what is best for you. If you feel you need to share your worries now so that you can feel supported then share them. Usually as parents we are the ones to look after our children. Sometimes we need them (as they get older). No it won't be a nice conversation to have. But, once out in the open hopefully you will feel better supported. I haven't told my teenage sons yet as the eldest was in the middle of exams when I was diagnosed. I'm telling them tomorrow - they've been away with their Dad. I have a strong support network but have still found it hard keeping it from the boys. I will be relieved when it is out in the open for all our sakes. 
     

    Sending love and please do what you think is best for you  xxx 

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    Hi

     

    The only thing I would say is ... You should do what is best for you. If you feel you need to share your worries now so that you can feel supported then share them. Usually as parents we are the ones to look after our children. Sometimes we need them (as they get older). No it won't be a nice conversation to have. But, once out in the open hopefully you will feel better supported. I haven't told my teenage sons yet as the eldest was in the middle of exams when I was diagnosed. I'm telling them tomorrow - they've been away with their Dad. I have a strong support network but have still found it hard keeping it from the boys. I will be relieved when it is out in the open for all our sakes. 
     

    Sending love and please do what you think is best for you  xxx 

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