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suspected breast cancer and worried anxious waiting

Mumgrey
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Hey 

feel like I'm going crazy, found a lump in my right breast   On Thursday, managed to get GP appointment. Early last week . At this point I was a little worried but not really.  Urgent 2ww referral made to the clinic and now having to wait until the 14th. 
feeling very alone and frightened as I'm 44 I have 2 children in their 20's and 2 younger ones at secondary school. My younger children's father and partner advises not to worry anyone until I have my tests. I don't have a great support network in either friends or family.
 

I don't want to worry my oldest ones but I do have a sinking feeling and anxiety that it is cancer... not just because of the lump but other ongoing symptoms. The thought of getting a diagnosis and then sharing it with them seems harder than maybe preparing them by sharing it as suspected. I believe they would want to know now rather than after a diagnosis or I am being selfish? 
everything online talks about waiting for a diagnosis.
 

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    Hi sorry to hear this. Are you close to your 2 in their 20's. 

    My 2 are both married now 30 and 27 we are very close as went through hell when we left their dad in 2005. They both knew I was going for a routine screening and my son even asked had I had my results just before I was recalled. 

    I have been open and honest with them I have triple negative and had surgery on 21st April and Starr chemo on 11th. We are all scared but supporting each other. Plus telling them means no secrets which helps when they then sat how are you. 

    Reaching out on here is a start as we all going through something so chatting with those in similar situations helps. You can friend people so it's easier to chat happy to do that if you want. 

    Best wishes

    Louise xx

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    Hi

    I have literally just received my biopsy results on wed 26th, I found a lump and was referred and didn't tell anyone, but after the biopsys were taken I was so upset and worried that I told my son who's 30 years old, he came with me on the 26th as I was advised to bring someone with me.

    Its not nice to go through, I was told I have stage 2 breast cancer, I'm 49 years old, and also got a 10 year old daughter.  I'm glad he was there with me he was inconsolable but we got all the info we needed, and are now waiting for appt for mastectomy !

    This site is great just to chat and everyone understands what u are going through.

    Xx

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  • Offline in reply to Bellelouise

    Hi

    I have literally just received my biopsy results on wed 26th, I found a lump and was referred and didn't tell anyone, but after the biopsys were taken I was so upset and worried that I told my son who's 30 years old, he came with me on the 26th as I was advised to bring someone with me.

    Its not nice to go through, I was told I have stage 2 breast cancer, I'm 49 years old, and also got a 10 year old daughter.  I'm glad he was there with me he was inconsolable but we got all the info we needed, and are now waiting for appt for mastectomy !

    This site is great just to chat and everyone understands what u are going through.

    Xx

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